thinking twice about my pregnancy?

Question

I'm 18 and I'm about 18 weeks pregnant. I really wanted to get pregnant. My boyfriend and I only had to try a month before I got pregnant. Now that I'm getting farther along in my pregnany it's really starting to set into my mind that I'm gonna be a momma. I feel very nervous and sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing by getting pregnant. My medwife assures me that it's normal to get 'cold feet'. But I can't help but wonder if what I'm feeling is normal

Answer 1

FIRST OF ALL....................DON'T PAY ANY ATTENTION TO THE FIRST ANSWER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ABORTION IS MURDER !!!!
Could you live with yourself if you MURDERED your own child?

SECOND OF ALL......Yes, the feelings are NORMAL.
Give yourself some more time to get used to the idea.
Pregnancy is a wonderful experience. Just wait...till you see the first sonogram..a living being, you helped to create growing inside of you. It a wonderfully beautiful thing.

Carry your child to term. (you haven't sealed your fate).
See how you feel after you go through the pregnancy and deliver your beautiful child. If at that time, you don't want to go through with being a mother to your child..........LET SOMEONE WHO WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A CHILD THAT CAN'T ADOPT your baby and give him/her loving caring parents.

THIS CHILD DID NOT ASK TO BE CONCEIVED........
NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO END HIS/HER LIFE!
YOU GAVE THE CHILD LIFE...DON'T TAKE IT AWAY.

AGAIN..these feelings are NORMAL.
At 18 years old...you can be a good mom....you already made the choice...now...follow through. Yes, your young and whether you did the right thing or not by getting pregnant is NOT the ISSUE now. Your BABY'S LIFE is the ISSUE.

I was 19 when I had my first child. Like you....I planned the pregnancy...at first I wondered if I had done the right thing at such a young age...wondering if I was really ready to be a GOOD mother...would I know HOW to mother this child.
The farther along I got in the pregnancy....the more these thoughts faded. I felt her move....THAT is a MARVALOUS feeling. To feel a living being that I helped create moving inside of me. I gave birth to her...held her...and raised her.
She will be 34 yrs old in December and I have NEVER regreted getting pregnant or having her.
I had three more children after her and love them all dearly.

You're NOT GONNA be a momma...........
You ARE a momma !!!
You're child is growing inside of you now. Start loving him/her NOW.
You ARE a GOOD mom ALREADY...You'r proving to yourself your concern is for the baby...by admitting you feel nervous and wondering if you did the right thing....sounds like you already care and love this baby.
IF YOU WEREN'T A GOOD MOM....YOU WOULDN'T BE NERVOUS........YOU WOULN'T CARE !!!!

Try to RELAX....enjoy this experience...plan for your baby's birth.
Plan his/her future with a loving momma.
Take good care of your baby. Make sure you give him/her all your love.
Read books about taking care of a newborn.
You can get support and information from the health department and the library.
Your mom or other family members are there to support and guide you.
And there's the baby's father and his family.

PRAY AND ASK GOD TO HELP YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES AND GIVE THE KNOWLEDGE YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF THIS CHILD. HE WILL PROVIDE.

GOD BLESS YOU...I'LL BE PRAYING FOR YOU.

PLEASE NOTE: the statements I made in this answer are in NO WAY intended to ENCOURAGE teen pregnancy !!!!!!
In this case...the pregnancy was planned and already in it's 18th week. My statements were to CONFIRM that being nervous and having cold feet was normal. And to DISCOURAGE ABORTION!
There are other choices rather than taking the life of a child.

Answer 2

She's too far along for a legal abortion and maybe she is pro-life and not pro-choice. I was 18 almost 19 when i got preggy with my son and i got cold feet, but i went all the way through with it and now i have a beautiful 2 yr old son and another baby on the way EDD 11/14. I can't wait i'll have a boy whose 2 1/2 yrs older than his little sister. Don't listen to people telling you to get abortions you will regret it, i had one at 16 and i regret it to this day.
You two should sit down and talk about it maybe a talk with your BF will set your mind at ease. Maybe a reassureing talk will set your mind at ease. There are a lot of people out there that have babies young and are doing just fine now and their children have everything they need......

Answer 3

No you shouldnt consider an abortion every child is a gift, you made the choice to have the baby now that your pregnant you cant just decide that you dont want it anymore. I have two beautiful boys I had my first one when I was 17 and I finished my education and I truly believe that he saved my life because I dont know the things I would have continued doing if I didnt have the responsibility of mommy. There is no feeling in the world like feeling your child move in your tummy the first time, or seeing them finally after you carry them for 9 months, or the first word and the first time they tell you they love you. Being a mother is hard but it is the most rewarding thing in the world. Please dont get an abortion that would be such a waste of life.

Answer 4

I was going to say don't get an abortion, but enough people have told you that already! But I do agree with them.

As for getting cold feet, I think that is common. Now I'm just talking out of experince, but what you are going though, you know it is going to change your life, and you have concerns. It is a big life change and I think everyone has cold feet when they are going through a life changing experince. Even if you wanted it, you can have cold feet!

I hope this helps and congrats on the baby!

Answer 5

I suggest looking at all of the organ systems, and how much the baby has formed before you get all jittery and change your mind. Look at what has already grown in you... and if you truely do not want the baby at this point, there are so many couples that would love your baby. If you can picture yourself not going through the pregnancy after you look in to what you have already created, or not giving a pure joy to couple that couldn't concieve in a month, then perhaps it will be an easier decision for you.

Answer 6

18 is young to become a mother. youre not too far along for an abortion if thats what you want to do. dont listen to ANYONE tell you what to do - this is YOUR life. Being a mother is a life long commitment - one that requires maturity, sacrifice and genuine selflessness. It IS normal to have cold feet when becoming a mom - but think about this: Can you be the mother this child deserves? Seek counseling to sort this out right away.

Answer 7

you should not consider an abortion....you shouldn't of gotten pregnant if you didn't want you child......give it up of adaption if you decide not to keep it don't abort it... think about all the couples out there that would love to have children but cant. God has a plan for you and your unborn child or you wouldn't be regent in the first place.

Answer 8

It's very normal to have doubts about motherhood. It is a daunting thing to anticipate. Most women experience these doubts, and quite frankly, if you didn't have any nervousness, I would question how good a mother you would be. Relax and enjoy your pregnancy. Parenting is hard work, but worth every moment!

Answer 9

yeah its scarey isn't it. that's why we try to drum it into young ppl to do the right thing about contraceptives. but it still does happen. you'll be fine. once you have the baby everything will change. there is a great article here on pregnancy and all you need to know to make it more comfortable and foods to avoid etc....

Answer 10

Youre only 18. You have no education. No job skills. Now youre sealing your fate with a baby?

You really should consider an abortion.

Many people will try to tell you not to get one, that you will reget it, etc. Dont listen to them. Make your own decision. They are only concerned with their religious agenda, not your future.