My husband is really makin me mad! He goes to the same bar after wrk on fridays and I know the barmaid Ive met her once.Anyway I had a herrendis earach and he comes home loaded and tells me oh susan the barmaid was bending over in my way so I pinched her butt! Well I told him to keep his hands to himself ! Well this thurs I had to have my absessed tooth surg removed thts what the earach was and he comes home doesnt take care of me at all and then the next day he comes home frm the bar and says susan had a bachach and I rubbed it for her!aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah! What the hey is this sh-t?
2006-07-16 16:21:58 · 30 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did have a talk and he said he was sorry and he would try to be a better husband! He was loaded at the time he made the comments from the bar and it did seem he was trying to pick at me at the time!
2006-07-16 16:40:43 · update #1
What the heck is goin on?
2006-07-16 16:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
His core issue is his abuse of alcohol to the point he does really stupid stuff. Some day some big guy will come along and beat the crap out of him for touching some woman he shouldn't be touching. Tell him it's time to take a break from the booze. If he can't or won't ...consider whether or not he could use AA. If he's not doing that behavior when he's sober, that will be the indicator. In any event, there is NO excuse for it and you need to demand he makes immediate changes or else give him the boot.
2006-07-17 00:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is just saying this to get a rise out of you or he flat out doesnt respect you or your feelings. I wonder, how would he feel if you had done that to some guy at a bar, he'd probably flip his wig.. Thats too bad that he doesnt take care of you the way that he is taking care of this lady. I dont like the fact that he is so open with you about what he does to other women thats not cool..
If i were you, I'd give him an open handed smack in the mouth, then I'd wash his mouth out with soap.. that should do the trick.. ha ha... but seriously, you guys really need to have a heart to heart talk... I hope it all works out for you..
2006-07-16 23:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by NIKFAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey. I was compelled to answer some of your subsequent questions because I was in a similar situation with my wife up to about a year ago. I clicked on your name at the top & found your other questions, this one included, with a common theme (Your Husband & his drinking) I am writing this with tears in my eyes because I know the pain you are suffering (& I don't mean from the tooth). I offer you my support, what you are going through I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. What is this sh-t? Your husband is an alcoholic, & maybe a cheater too. He will never be there for you as long as he is choosing the bottle over you.
2006-07-18 00:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going on is your husband is not getting something at home and unfortunately he is looking for it elsewhere. Most women think this is their man cheating but it's not always sexual. Sometimes there is an emotional break brought on by work, stress, friends, etc. if you are not attentive then your man is going to find someone he can talk/relate too. Ask him whats up it's the fastest way to get your answers and by ask I don't mean berate him into admitting something that might be a lot more hurtful than you bargained for.
2006-07-16 23:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Will G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask you husband is he trying to make you jelous it sounds like it to me...If my husband come home and said those things about a barmaid or anyother woman for that fact I would probley kill him!
Just next time say that is nice dear now do you think you could help me here I have a bad back, leg etc etc and work on your relationship as it sounds like you need some help!
2006-07-16 23:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would are upset and that maybe you need to talk to you husband. To me he is filrting with the barmaid. May he is telling you to piss you off for a reason. Talk to him to see if he cares still about you and tell him on fri that you and him are going out.
2006-07-16 23:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does your husband have to go to the bar every Friday night and get drunk before he comes home? why does he want attention from another woman when he has a wife at home? why does his wife at home believe his drunken a** when he comes stumbling home and confesses to touching the barmaid? why are you acting dumb and blind? do you need to see him having sex with another woman before you can see this picture is distorted?
2006-07-16 23:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to make u jealous......just get a man friend of urs to come over and take care of u while ur hubby is at the bar with his bar whore.........tell him as long as he's gonna go to the bar and see Susan....that ur friend is going to come over and visit.....he'll get the hint, hopefully!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-16 23:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you husband has a thing for susan and you are very jealious and he had no right rubing susan back when there sure are other guy around that could of done that for susan when men drink and they see a nice piece of *** they want to spack that that nature so i think your husband has a thing for susan
good luck
2006-07-16 23:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like total crap comes out of his mouth when he's drunk, but that's no excuse. Even if it's once a week, he has a drinking problem because he can't handle it. Threaten to leave him if he doesn't sober up. If that doesn't work, leave. You deserve to be treated with respect!
2006-07-16 23:47:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋