Hey just had an arguement with my best friends and we decided to break off our friendship. During the friend ship it seemed real iffy at times, but now i have no one to turn to when im bored. We both said a ton of bad things about one another and i am not ready to go up to him and appoligize when he began the arguement. What should i do?
2006-07-16 16:17:37 · 15 answers · asked by ekent911 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-07-16 16:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Things had been said and the damage was done so it is really difficult for now to regain the friendship.
If the relationship has already ended, then accept that. Even if you weren't the one who ended it, it's much better to just accept what happened, learn from your experience and try to move on. I know accepting the break up may be difficult, but by doing this you'll bounce back much more quickly and easily.
During this period you may be feeling a myriad of different emotions: confusion, betrayal and doubt, just to name a few. Remember, you just lost a loved one! It is completely natural to grieve... in fact, allowing yourself a grieving period is just about the best thing you can do.
After your grieving period, it's time to get to moving on... I know, easier said than done but there are ways to do this successfully! The best solution is to decide who your true friends are, then surround yourself with these people. Go out and have fun. Make a list of all the things you've "been meaning to do" or always wanted to do. Pick a close friend or go by yourself and DO those things! Staying active both physically and mentally can do wonders for getting over a past love. It gets your mind out of the situation your into and into looking into the future.
2006-07-16 23:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by @ngёL♥PÏήK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have said bad things to each other, but you said them in the heat of the arguement, so alot of those things probably weren't meant to b said. as for the "break off" think back on your friendship were you happy around your friends, were you happy when they came over, when they called you, when they passed you notes, or did you have a nagging feeling deep down. if your friendship is really important to you guys then the answer should come easy, if it doesn't then maybe you should really think about whether you want to deal with it all over again. good luck!
2006-07-16 23:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by twisted_kiwi13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, "we decided to break off our friendship." End of story. Now find some other friends that are not "iffy" and, by the way, true friends are not just peoplel to turn to when you are bored.
2006-07-16 23:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is the friendship???? my best friend and i ended our friendship about 8 years ago over the years we have gotten closer and now we are best friends once again...if you are truely friends let time heal what words have hurt and then appoligize...some friendships are meant to be others are not....my friend and i have been friends for 15 years and counting
2006-07-16 23:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by glowofacandle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices.
Sit and stew like you're doing now (how's it working for you?).
Or
Approach the dude, not admitting to being wrong, but to break the ice and maybe apologizing for losing control?
If a friendship can't handle an argument now and then, then maybe it's not meant to be.
2006-07-16 23:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by da_lizard_of_ozz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only want a friend when you are bored, then find another friend. If this friend has a lot to offer you then you need to talk it out. Regardless of who started the argument, apologies need to be made. Be the bigger person and apologize first.
2006-07-16 23:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger one and go and apoligize, if you really like this friend. If you dont then just find a new friend. Alot of things are said in anger and not really meant. Offer the olive tree...and see what happens
2006-07-16 23:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you're really friends, it'll pass, and you'll know more about each other. If you don't have anyone to hang with, probably neither do they. The basis of your friendship is probably still there.
2006-07-16 23:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to go to him and talk it out, wait to the both of you are ready for this talk. You'll find it will be better..or
you can sit around and be bored and wonder..
2006-07-16 23:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by lil bit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you are still thinking about it, maybe you should ask yourself, is your relationship worth it? I mean , you did say that he started it. That sounds like unnecessary drama to me. Don't ya think? But if you really wanna talk to him, then just DO IT. Life is too short, have no regrets! Ciao!
2006-07-16 23:21:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋