shy in the bedroom?

Question

im engaged and shy in the bedroom I have a small child and I have baby phat, not alot just alittle but Im shy to be dominating in the bedroom. I am experienced , and I do know what men like I've never been shy with anyone but him. wht do i do?

Answer 1

It sounds like you love him, and are a bit insecure in that love. He may be feeling the same. If you can't talk to him about this little (and I do mean little) problem before you are married, then talking to him about bigger problems after you are married may be even harder.

Sometimes talking face to face is hard. I suggest lying next to him on the bed, in a darkened room - fully clothed, holding his hand only, and blurting it out. If you can try to figure out why you are shy about this (introspection) on your own then you may not have to talk to him about it, because you will be taking the first steps to solving the problem on your own.

Answer 2

I used to be so super shy. At the time, I would have rather had my teeth pulled than bare the agony of having to meet new people.

My shyness was really because I was super super self-conscious. I always thought other people would judge me based on the way I looked, what I said, or what I did. So I always kept quiet. I just sat back and observed. But the truth of the matter is, most folks are so wrapped up in their own stuff, they don’t have time to judge or worry about what you say or do. So relax, and just be yourself! Damn what anyone else thinks! You’ll feel so much better when you stop caring about what other people think!

Folks I eventually became friends with said when they first met me, they thought I was a snob or really aloof. They had no idea I was like that because I was so shy. Once I could focus on what was great about me, my confidence boosted, and I naturally became less shy.

The great thing about being shy, is you’re a natural listener. Think about it – I bet you know, see, and hear ”the details” more than your outgoing friends. I think shy people are also very intuitive. You know how to read people. It goes hand in hand with sitting on the sidelines all the time observing. You’ve watched people interact for a long time already. Well – it’s time to get off the bench and use that talent!

You don’t have to become a chatterbox, or the life of the party overnight. Pick your moments. Bring up subjects you know about when converations turn or slow down. I know people think I can be funny, but that doesn’t mean I’m running around doing a stand-up routine whenever I’m out. I just say random things from time to time and people more often than not tend to chuckle. If you asked me to tell you a joke, I couldn’t do it. I don’t know any…and more importantly, it’s not me.

If you happen to have a talent, have the courage and belief in yourself to try and share that with people. Go play an open mic. Join the choir at church. Share your art/photography with someone. Take the risk. And feel amazed when people come over to you and want to talk to you because they think you’re super cool! After that…kiss your shyness goodbye.
being confidant in public will help you conqeur your under the sheets problems.........

Answer 3

FIRST LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE. IF YOU DON'T LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF WHY WOULD HE. IF YOU ACT LIKE IT BOTHERS YOU IT WILL BEGIN TO BOTHER HIM. SO GO AHEAD AND GET FREAKY. IF HE WANTED SOMEONE WHO IS BONY THEN THAT'S WHERE HE WOULD BE AT NIGHT INSTEAD OF BEING WITH YOU. DON'T BE ASHAMED EVERY WOMAN HAS FLAWS WE JUST DO NT LET THE MEN KNOW THAT.

Answer 4

it might be because your shy about ur body. maybe you can talk 2 ur partner about it and ask him all the problems you have about ur body.