What do you think about this family court commissioner?

Question

I recently had a second divorce hearing out of what will probably be one hundred.(sigh) Anyway, I had two witnesses in the hall and after the hearing the family court commissioner walked out of the courtroom, met up with a male co-worker and she proceeded to laugh and tell him what I had said. Then looking at my witnesses, she lowered to a whisper and they went into a room and continued to whisper. What I had done during this hearing was stand up for my right to choose my occupation...something among the many things they were trying to dictate to me. My occupation I've chosen is reputable and yet they belittled me and told me to get a "real" job. After 13 years of emotional abuse I figure I'm about due to have some respect. Should I seek her superiors and tell them about how unprofessional she had been even though she will deny the whole thing and I'll look like the idiot again? Or let it go and see how she treats me from here out?

Answer 1

Forget it for now, but make a log of these kinds of things- including this last instance... keep a make shift journal of your misgivings. If you see a "pattern" of this kind of unscrupled behavior starting to form, you need to call her on it in front of unbiased witnesses and ask her to explain her behavior. The worst thing she could do would be to be "dismissive" of your concerns and not fully address them. In this way you'll either get her "dead to rights" or you'll enlist her serious cooperation for fear of a law-suit... don't take sh1+ from any bureaucratic types out there... sometimes they will simply act as a "rubber stamp" for the "status quo" unless they are 'threatened' into fair and unbiased arbitration... I know this sounds weird, but this IS often what must be done to "light a fire" under their collective a$$es!

Answer 2

Well that definately was very UNprofessional of the Court Commisioners part. I suppose she places her own job as more important than yours, but she apparently isn't handling the job well if she belittles other people.

Your first step is to talk to your lawyer. You need to tell your lawyer what has happened. If you do not have a lawyer, maybe you need a witness from your job or if you are self employed, a person who also succeeds in the field that you do, to come into the next court hearing with you and explain the job that you do to the courts and its reputation.

I do note that you say the job is "reputable", but you don't mention even in what line of work it is.

Answer 3

report this to her superiors. and ask for another family law master this one is not in your interest . fact/ ?