I really likes this friend of mine very very much, let alone whether he's gay or not coz he can't response anything to me either at this time .. I tried to let him out of my head, but in seems like the more i try the more i think of him.. And one more thing is, I don't find anyone around me that could open up up my heart anymore .. I thought being gay i should can move on fast, but innerly i know i want to wait for him. Am i really gay or is it anything else?
2006-07-16 15:52:57 · 12 answers · asked by imconfused 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, I would say that if you have erotic (meaning either lustful or affectionate) thoughts toward a male friend, and you are male, then yes, you have some considerable degree of homosexuality within you.
Now, if that point is settled, there is something else to be said about your "obsession" with this particular friend. You do not indicate how old or how sexually experienced you are, but from your question I get the feeling that you are in your teens but that the guy you "love" is a bit younger than you are. Not so long ago this kind of affection between young people was called "puppy love," and another less fuzzy and warm term for it is "infatuation." In my experience (it is hard to remember so many years ago, though) infatuations could take from three to sixteen weeks to pass. Often my infatuations were directed toward men who were (most likely entirely) straight.
I would say that you will get over becoming infatuated with guys you cannot have when you finally get tired of wasting all of your emotional energy on guys who just are not on the same wave-length. You will grow out of this, which is sad in a way, but it happens to all of us. Take your time, though, and enjoy those heart-throbs while they last!
2006-07-16 16:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could be. But is it your heart. Ik that you said it is. But look deep in your heart. Do you really really like him. Or possibly love him. You need to see around other people and see if going out with other people really made you feel different, but if not well you might just be attractited him. And then the answer would have to be yes you are gay.
2006-07-16 18:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you could be, but I wouldn't bet everything upon this one scenario.
you should get out more and explore your feelings. Don't exaggerate one way or the other. Don't analyze so much. Just make mental notes. note who you are normally attracted to emotionally and physically. Do that over the long haul. it's really a matter of self-discovery, and getting to know yourself can be complicated.
Once you know yourself better, start accepting yourself, and move on accordingly with intelligence.
2006-07-16 18:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be gay or it could be that you're confusing admiration for sexual feelings. Like str8 guys admire football players you might just admire him and you got that confused with thinking you are like in love with him.
You could just be gay though if you are then that's no problem and if hes a good friend he'd understand if you choose to tell him. Maybe not tell him you have the hots for him at first tho that can freak guys out haha.
2006-07-23 03:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with fall2005... sometimes we have feelings for our friends but you should wait til you're a bit older before ruling out the idea that maybe it's just infatuation, or a deep respect for this guy or some connection of a lesser sort.
2006-07-16 16:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by laydlo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi and one of my good friends is bi. We have been friends for almost a year and he told me one night that he was in love with me, We are still friends, but I understand that he doesn't really know me that well and I'm just a friend he has learned to like more than his other friends because he can be more open to me. You sound a little like my friend. You may just have a really close relationship with your friend rather than being in love.
2006-07-16 17:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're gay with a crrush on your friend. You may want to meet other guys to get him out of your mind
2006-07-16 16:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet lots of people before you make a dicision like that.
2006-07-17 05:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be a faze your going through cuz he understands you more right.
2006-07-16 15:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by tushpush1966 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you may be.
you dont say how old you are or wether you have had girls before etc etc
2006-07-16 15:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋