I have a best friend she is married...?

Question

I knew her before she was married. The point is the fact that we have the hots for each other. What should I do?

Answer 1

Respect the fact that she married someone else and value your friendship more.

Answer 2

I think that if you both had those feelings before she got married then why didn't you both do anything about them? At least kissed or something to see if there really is something there.

Now she is married, and you just have to respect her decision and be there for her as her "friend". You too should go on with your life, who knows maybe you'll meet someone new.

Because even if you two started seeing each other on the side, she would never leave her married partner for you, the reason I say this is because she had the opportunity to get with you way before she even thought of getting married. Plus someone IS only going to get hurt, and it might be you.

Good luck

Answer 3

If she is married I would get myself out of the picture pronto.

If she has the hots for you, than she does not have the hots for her hubby, and her marriage will eventually end in divorce court.

You can then pick up the pieces, but not until then.

If she had the hots for you, and she married her husband anyway, she is bad news and you should get yourself out of the picture pronto.

Good luck to you

Answer 4

Respect her marriage vows. Allow her to respect her marriage vows. If you wanted to be together, you should have been together before she vowed "till death do us part" to ANOTHER man. Not to you.

How would you feel if you were married and your wife cheated on you? If she is your best friend you need to cool the friendship off and spend less time with her until you can make up your mind that it's "hands off".

Take a cold shower and move on.

Answer 5

You should respect the friendship you have with her.
If you really care for her then wouldn't you rather have all of her or nothing?
There's no point in crossing that line and putting her through alot of stress and possibly messing up her life just for a good time...

Answer 6

I say deal with it. If she is married she obviously found love with someone ant that seems to me to be way more lasting than "The Hots"..How would you feel if you pursued it and the decision wrecked their marriage. If your ment to be then the marriage wont last anyway. Let them have their shot.

Answer 7

if she has kids then you definitely should just stay friends, because her getting a divorce will affect them very negatively, other than than go with your instinct. sleeping with a married woman is wrong, but i'm sure you already know that. just ask yourself, if you're caught... is the sex worth the destruction of your best friend's marriage...? good luck.

Answer 8

The worst possible outcome of a marital affair is that the spouse being cheated on kills themself and everyone you know finds out why.
The best possible outcome of a marital affair is a life-long guilty Love that you know she sleeps, every night, with someone else.

............ choose.

Answer 9

Go for it. She wants you as bad as you want her. Just plain sex. No commitment. No " luv you and will respect you in the morning." Just good old, animal sex.

Chris Rocks says, "No guy has a girl for a friend. He has a chick that he hasn't had sex with yet, that's all."

GIT HER DONE, dude!!!

Answer 10

Ok, if she has so much of the "hots" for you, then why'd she marry somebody else? What do you mean "what should you do?" Her marital status answers that question for you...