I have run into some one from my past. The problem is that I'm married now w/ 2 kids. I love my family don't get me wrong. But I still have feelings for this other person. Should I tell either one of them he way I feel?
2006-07-16 15:40:01 · 11 answers · asked by roguethedarkangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um....no, that is something u better keep to urself......your hubby doesn't need to know u are in love with another man.....and this other man doesn't need to know you're in love with him....he may have moved on from you.......and you don't want to ruin that for him.
2006-07-16 15:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about your family...Yeah, it's good to see old flings, if you have feelings for them, you need to turn that energy into the blessings of your family and think of all the reasons your together, WARNING: "The grass is not greener on the other side".
Once you establish a family, there is no room for complete selfishness. Get over it.....Look at why you fell in love with your husband, look at the blessing of each of your children you had together, There is nothing your missing out on. Be grateful for what you have now, and thankful that you had a chance to spend a part of your life with the one from your past.
2006-07-16 15:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Surfagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people have be there.all i can say is if you want to stay with your family then try to put it out of your mine and if your feeling like you should say something then i wouldn't unless you want you really want this other person more then what you have
hope everything works out for you i'v been there and it is a very hard inrer war you'll get though and you'll make the right chose for you but just to let you know you will still always wonder what if you did something differen,but in the end you will know with your heart it was the right one.hope this helps some.good luck
2006-07-16 15:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by mandy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out for coffee or lunch--NOT a beer!--with the other person, with your mate's full knowledge. Chat about old times and enjoy the time you share with your old friend. Afterward, go back home.
If your marriage is strong, this will be no problem. If it isn't, you already have problems. Either way, be open with your spouse. If you can't do that, I don't see why you're married.
2006-07-16 15:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't. study this feelings first, ask the guy out, but don't hide it to your husband. you must just get excited upon seeing him because of the gap or time you haven't seen this other guy whom you felt 'something' with.
used your love for your family to become stronger against temptations. you know the consequences it will bring if you do something that isn't right.
forget this guy, live your life the way it was that is be with your family and be a nice mother and a wife to your husband instead.
2006-07-16 15:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mhazeâ?¢ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be faithful to the one you married. If not why did you get married in the first place?
2006-07-16 15:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no, this is one of those cases where you have to bite the bullet, and swallow your feelings. if not for your spouse... then at least do it for your kids. expressing your feelings will lead to an affair, which may lead to a divorce, and it will affect your kids very negatively, more than you'll ever know.
2006-07-16 15:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Q the genius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that since u already started a beautiful fam, and u already said "YES" to his perposal then u should stay with ur husband. and tell the other guy that u have feelings for them but u have a husband.
2006-07-16 15:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by AMARI J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and remember the grass is not always better on the other side
2006-07-16 15:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop seeign that other person ur married and thats a comitment
2006-07-16 15:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by The Ren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋