ok i meet a guy on the computer who is a cop and he is great but he is married. But he is not happy with his wife. And i am going to marry a guy in oct who i love and care a lot about. I am not sure what to do. I dont want to do what everyone say flow your heart that is BS. LOL both of the guys are cops and very sweet but the one who is married is so understanding and he dont know what to do about this wife to stay or to move out. HELP!!!!
She was out of town for a week and it was great we got to talk alot on the computer and on the phone and i am planning a trip to go see him in a few days what do i do. I cant keep telling my self its ok can i?
2006-07-16 15:39:56 · 15 answers · asked by suepooh23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have not did anything wrong yet i have just been talking to his guy on the computer and phone and i dont see how that was wrong. I am very much in love with the guy i am goign to marry but i have feeling for the other its not big deal i dont think i could move to where this guy is and be happy thier but i know i am happy with the guy i am going to marry he is great and great lover great freind, caring person, sweet and i cant wait to be his wife when the time is right.
2006-07-16 15:58:33 · update #1
Yep gotta go with Karen_Wonderful on this one. The guy is married. You will be in the same boat. Stay on course with what you have now!
2006-07-16 15:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by ur_ave_joe 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do not go on with your marriage plans! I just got married and it is a serious deal. If you have ANY doubt that there is another man for you do not waste the time and money of getting married to the wrong guy. It looks like you have a thing for cops. I had a thing for mexicans, but I just knew he was the one when I met him because I could never think of being with someone else.
2006-07-16 22:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by hambone1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block it out of your mind like it never happened and stay away from internet chats with guys!
If you don't, you'll forever be enticed and never settle down nor be satisfied!
Don't get caught up in the endless internet... it has the potential to make you crazy and distract you for the rest of your life if you let it! It's already started... can't you see that? Get away from it! It will destroy "your" life, and possibly other innocent by-standers! Don't allow it to control you soul, (because it surely can!). I've seen it destroy several lives already! Come back to your senses and RUN! Think about it... even without the internet, you can't just "have" someone elses husband and expect to life a long and prosperous life, happily ever after!
2006-07-16 22:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, are you out of your mind??? OK..he "MIGHT" be a cop...or not; you're going to meet someone you don't even know; you do know he's married. What are you trying to do? Ruin your life with your fiancee' before it gets started?? Leave the married guy alone!!! You need help alright...this is just a thrill ride for you, nothing more. And believe me, he's not going to be leaving his wife for you. So.....change your screen name and your email account and disappear. You will be doing you both a big big favor!
2006-07-16 22:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have you ever known a man who has affairs that doesn't claim to be "unhappy with his wife"? Get real! That is the OLDEST line in the book, and you fell for it. LOLOLOLOL!!! What you need to do is tell your fiance so that he can rid himself of you and your niave drama and find himself someone who is real and knows how to have a FAITHFUL relationship. As far as for you...it sounds like you have some real issues when it comes to having an understanding of commitments, honesty and loyalty, and as long as you choose to live this way, you will spend the rest of your life hopping between guys who feed you stupid pick up lines. If you want to drown your own life out with this kind of stupidity, then do so, but at least set your fiance free so that he doesn't get caught up in your trashy moral.
2006-07-16 22:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by boxerpitk9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop talking to this computer guy, its wrong. Even though he is not happy with his wife thats his problem, he shouldent go and find someone to replace her with. If you truly love your husband to be you will stop talking to this man, he may seem perfect but you dont know him from a bar of soap until you have met him and spent time with him, which i dont recomend doing given your situation. My best advice i can give you is, forget the computer cop, it can only end badly, if you break up with your husband to be you will end up alone and unhappy, stay with the man you know best and that you know who truly loves you.
Good luck!
2006-07-16 22:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
P. T. Barnum said there is one born every day and you must be the one chosen the day you were born. A married man is a married man. He can be sweet and caring on the internet but what is he doing to the woman he is living with? And, if he cheats on his wife, he will cheat on you.
2006-07-16 22:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT have anything more to do with a married man. People get killed over s*** like that all the time. Would you want somebody messing with your husband? Girl, dont be stupid or naive; you only heard his side of the story. Just stop.
2006-07-16 22:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow Up! Just b/c he sounds sweet on the computer, doesn't mean he IS! Remember?You're getting married - it's a serious committment! If you're not going to be faithful, don't get married.
2006-07-16 22:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by ♥DRV♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust man whom you known thru internet. He is just a cheater, he will tell a lot of bad things about his wife to win your love. Don't be silly, he is a liar. If he really doesn't love his wife, he should had already divorced his wife long time ago. Believe me, married man like him is just a cheater who broke his wife heart. Take care yourself, don't let this kind of man take your virginity, save it to your future husband.
2006-07-16 22:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abandon your plans for marriage at this stage; you are not ready for a committment. Also, you must stop your relationship with the married man. Do NOT go to see him; you have no idea what grief you have ahead of you if you continue your relationship with this married man.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-16 22:50:30 · answer #11 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋