Is there something wrong with me?

Question

Why have I been single for over 2 years? i got a good job, aparment, car, and i am very nice looking..Guys be going up for me but they act like they scared to approach me..i feel I have a lot going for myself except the fact that I'm single..Sometimes I think I should just kill myself..I'm startin to think I'm going to be myself forever..maybe y'all can figure out what is the problem

Answer 1

What ever you do suicide isn't the answer. You are rushing it. I know it has been two years but just give it a lil more time. Remember that the best things in life are worth waiting for. You seen to be a fine person, someone will see that soon.

Answer 2

Without knowing you, it is of course hard to say, but I hope I would not be so crude as to say directly that there is something wrong with you, even if I saw it.

Assuming there is nothing wrong with you, however, does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with everyone else. But I am curious to know more about your environment -- big city or small, north or south, depressed economy or over-stimulated, and so forth. Some environments do not lend themselves well to finding a partner.

When it comes to your manner, though, you might really check whether you are coming across as what a lot of guys like to call "desperate." In other words, when you meet a new face, if that guy gets the feeling that you are earnestly hunting for a life partner, or if you look like you are seeking what smells like commitment or an exclusive relationship, you will definitely make a bad impression. Maybe upon first meeting guys you think are attractive, you send signals that you expect something deep and meaningful to develop right away. If so, that will scare ALL of them away.

Hmmm. I wish I could help more, but without knowing the particulars, it is really hard to do that! Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Yes certainly there is something wrong with you if you are old enough,nice guy,have good job,money,car and apartment but you have no a girlfriend.You must introspect yourself what is your strength and what is your weakness honestly..There is no perfect man in this world.Please make a list of your own characters.Maybe you are so proud or boasting of yourself so you are conceited.Woman and God hate someone who is very boasted.Maybe you are so egoist so many friends do not like you.
Maybe you often tell a lie so other people and also our God does not like a lier.You should take acton to correct your bad temper.
You must make more friends especially girls in your age.You must mingle with others as many as you can without limitation
,be polite and confident and intimate with others.You must investigate why others are scared approaching you.Do not kill yourself. be smart.Suicide is prohibited by our religion.It is a sin.Suicide is an evidencre that you have give up and hopeless
.Please try and try again guy untill you are success to find a good girl friend and marry her.I convince that you will success at last.If you have a will there you can find your way.There are many ways to RomeGod bless you.

Answer 4

Suicide is not the answer. There is someone for everyone, it just takes a little time to find the right one. Where are you looking for dates? Bars and single scenes are not the right place to find a nice guy.
Check out the people around you that you see every day. If you want to email someont to talk to I am at [e-mail]
What sort of work do you do? What time of day do you work...? If you want a good place to find a guy look at a local health club or join an exercise class. It takes discipline and self control to stay with that sort of thing and those are good qualities to have in a date. If you are able you might try going to a church you feel comfortable in. There are a lot of nice single people there.
I hope you find someone to talk to and remember that if you want to talk I am here.

Answer 5

You will find a good man once you stop looking for him, because right now you feel so negative and scared that you become shy or unreachable.

Be yourself, take your time... I know people who has been single for many years until one day they find a great guy and start a relationship.

You should try to get in touch with guys on some web sites like gaydar or guys4men, or date (just date, nothing serious) with some guys so you can get to know more people. Going to parties and clubs also gives you the chance to get in touch.

And never think of suicide, you seem to be a very valuable guy with a lot of projects to end all that for desperation... maybe it will take time to find a guy, but I'm sure it will be worthy!

Answer 6

Um, not to be rude, but why are you not doing the approaching? If you sit around waiting for someone else to just magically sweep into the picture, you'll spend a lot of time sitting!

Get out there and pursue people you like. Make friends, have hobbies, meet people wherever you can. The best way to meet good lovers and partners is through good friends, that way you can weed out most of the crazies.

So get on up and do something about your situation instead of just whining about how much it sucks to be waiting all the time!

Answer 7

The one thing that stands out to me the most here is that you talk about your physical assets and your material possessions yet there is NO word of your mental, emotional and spiritual depth that you would have to offer someone. I already can guess through your question that you are lacking in all three, which is causing uncertainty and lack of self-esteem. In essence human beings just as animals have an enate ability to have attraction and chemistry to an individual based on the confidence and energy they expel. If you have neither of these, others sense you are lacking therefore fail to be attracted. First things first, find a way to discover yourself; after all, do you think you are alone for no reason- of course not! This is your ah-ha moment- Complete yourself in every way so you are not depending on a mate to do it for you- that way you will be 100% giving without co-dependence that is not only unstable but unfair to the other person.

Answer 8

No there's nothing wrong with u. U r not alone coz I feel the same way u do. I have thought of suicide a lot of times too but I'm just too chicken to do it.. U may think of it but please don't do it. We all have someone special out there, u just have to have the patience to wait for him. Why not try online dating? I tried it and it worked for me. I went to message boards of my fave tv shows and have had a couple relationships online bec. of that but it fizzled... however, they're my bestfriends now.

Okay, my suggestion is go out there... don't wait for guys to approach you... you should have the initiative to approach them... offer them drinks at the bar or invite them for coffee or lunch, or maybe a movie, etc. There r a lot of things to do to meet other guys... u can meet them at the gym or at the movies, or gay bars for that matter... Take the first step or the initiative to meet men and everything else that you've been looking for will follow after that... Good luck!

Answer 9

Try Singles groups. They go on outings and do things together and they are looking for companionship too. Maybe you are looking to hard in the wrong place. Kinda like when you loose your remote control. Churches sponsor single get togethers. Go bowling with friends, get out and live life, don't sit around waiting on life to come to you. Start learning how to LIVE your life, not wait around to die is what I'm trying to say. Killing your self is a long term solution to a short term problem.

Answer 10

I'm sorta' like you. I've been a dateless wonder myself for over 2 years. Sounds like you need more confidence. Yes, it sounds like you have your life going in the right direction. Sometimes life has its dry spells, so it's not worth killing yourself over. Nothing is, really. It's just a way for us to learn. Maybe get a shirt saying you're available. I'm sometimes tempted to go to cafepress or some other website to do just that. Maybe you're TOO good looking and they are nervous. I know I have that fear of rejection that most people have.

Good hunting.