i'm 19, i hate my life because of my parents, hell i don't really have that many friends because of my parents, they're toooooo protective, they're not even planning on sending away for college, i'm staying in this small miserable town, and yes they CAN force me to stay....anyway, if i ran away from home, do you think i will survive out there?...
2006-07-16 15:17:59 · 15 answers · asked by sarasara806 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Running away with no plan, money, etc. is just plain stupid.
I don't understand, how can they make you stay if you have the ability to run away. So, you are not actually imprisoned in your home.
Get a job, save your money and get a plan. You are an adult and can not be held against your will.
One more thought, if your family doesn't feel you are mature enough to live on campus, why?
2006-07-16 15:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by momma dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can survive out there. Be careful what you ask for, because you may get it. Living on your own is exciting and liberating. Living on your own is also a lot of responsibility, as you become the one who must pay the bills, buy the food, provide other necessities, pay the rent, etc. Moving out on your own without a plan is never a good idea. Leaving home under bad circumstances is likewise a bad idea.
My suggestion is that you sit down with ONE of your parents and discuss the problems as you see them. Perhaps your parents have very good reasons for the way they are. With a little discourse, you and your parents may begin working towards making life better for everyone. Change does not happen in one day, so be patient. Try not to keep score, but do try to communicate when the situation is less tense.
By the way, the reason I suggest speaking with one parent instead of two is psychological. Anytime two people “negotiate” with one person, the team of two has a distinct advantage. You even the playing field by speaking to one parent. Encourage the one parent to share your views with the other parent so that nobody feels like tried to exclude them. Your intent is not to exclude, but simply to have the same footing as your parents during the conversation.
Good luck to you!
Will D
Enterprise AL
2006-07-16 15:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Will D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very immature. They would be less protective if you were more mature maybe. Anyway, do the responsible thing before taking off running. Do some serious research into what you would have to do to make it completely on your own. Start by getting a job, which will pay you enough to live off of. Also, look into maybe getting a scholarship to a school away from your parents, or just getting into a school which you could afford with your job. I think the best way to resolve things is to prove your independence by becoming independent, by becoming completely responsible for yourself. Then they will let go and not be protective because they will see that you are fine on your own.
2006-07-16 15:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you're 19, so you're considered an adult. As for can you survive, that's up to you. Be prepared to need a job, transportation, and a place to live. If you really want to leave, your parents can't force you to stay. If you want to go to school, then apply for a student loan, grant or scholarship. If you get one, then you can go to school. Do you have family somewhere else that you can stay with? Have you talked to your parents about how you feel? If you really feel like you have no other options, then save up some money and go somewhere. Good luck.
2006-07-16 15:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your head up, I know its easier said than done, but becoming optimistic is about the only motivation there is in a tough situation. I think you really should try to reach out to someone, maybe a professional, school counselor, or a trustworthy person from church, if you attend one. I don't know if your parents actually listen, but communicating exactly what you feel hopefully they will listen. But try to do everything that you can before doing something that can actually turn out to be dangerous. Really put some thought into your next move. My prayers out to you!
2006-07-16 15:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by casgonzo2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont run away. Bad things happen to runaways. Hang in there until ur 18, and leave on good terms, so if you ever need to, you can return. Never burn bridges, even if ur miserably now.
When you turn 18 there is no legal way your parents can force you to stay.
2006-07-16 15:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by jack f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can they force you to stay home?
Anyways, 'legally' you can leave home. If you are desperate, pack up some suit cases, go some place that interests you, and get a job. But first you should really talk to them, and if they still attack you, go to the authorities. Explain your problem, see if they can help you.
2006-07-16 15:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by worshipyourveggies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you have the skills to keep yourself alive by not selling your body. If you have people you can rely on then running away as you call it isnt so awful but if you dont then you are kinda stuck. And you are 19 sweety, you wouldnt be running away you will be making a life for yourself.
2006-07-16 15:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by N M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run away.Go to college and make friends. Maybe you could get a job and move out. Time passes fast, get your education and a good job and move out. You need your parents, but will probably get along with them better when you are working and living on your on.
2006-07-16 17:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, and i wouldnt, for now ur life is prolly all like blah but it can get better all u need to do is be patient..i no im sounding retarded like..but its the truth, i went thru the same thing..
2006-07-16 15:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋