is it wrong for a married woman to still have a close relationship with her mom?

Question

i ask this age old question cause my best friend is fighting with her hubby cause he thinks she should no call her mom so much on the phone to talk,he says he dont call his mom that much cause he has grown up and she needs to do the same,what do u think?

Answer 1

I am 31 yrs old have 4 kids and married I called my mom all the time numerous times during the day,but now my mom passed in March from cancer and I can't call her so tell your friend to call and love her momma as much as she wants tell the hubby to back off

Answer 2

This is a loaded question.

Marriage is leave-cleave-weave. Lotsa people have breakdowns in one of those parts and it usually leads to a divorce.

Leave: your major relationship becomes with the spouse. He doesnt play second fiddle to mom, dad, bro, sis, or anyone.

Cleave: you stick to your spouse. Life and people try to pull marriages apart, resist strongly. Serve and support your spouse (wife or husband) over all other things that your serve and support except God.

Weave: work to work together better, both in the bedroom, the kitchen, and all the places of your life. Being married can be part of the greatest team experience in your life, but you gotta be there, and play like you are giving your all for the team or it gets lost.

If the wife isnt leaving.. that means her husband isnt getting his wife as a team-mate.

Legitimate relationship with mom is fine.. but is your friend over the line. You arent necessarily qualified to answer the question, but you can be sure the hub feels it. If this leads to breakdown of a sense of trust and teaming, and lifes natural adversity sets in do you think the marriage is going to be long term survivable? 50% of marriages end in divorce.. this could easily end up being on the wrong side of that number.

Answer 3

There's a difference between having a good relationship with your mother, and having an attachment to your mother so deep, that you can't even have a healthy marriage or cope in society. Not sure which applies here, but either he's trying to seperate her from her mother, or she is always going to have problems in her life(marriage). Let's turn this around, and say that a woman would left a long time ago, if he was a momma's boy.

Answer 4

I do not think its wrong for a woman to close to her mother even after she is married.

As long as the mother do not pilot her marriage life. And to make sure she knows the place of her mother and husband in her marriage life.

There are areas in a woman's life that only another woman can understand. The husband can all grown up but it does not meant he understand minepause and pregnacy gravings and period problem.

Parents learn a lot in their marriage life, therefore, women gets to learn from their mothers lack or good example of good marriage, and so as man.

Growing up is not about not needing our parents, its about seeking advise. So grown up is knowing how to use advise and ignoring the advise if not appropriate.

Cheers

Answer 5

Oh, he needs to step off... do not get between a girl and her mom! It is the closest tie in the universe and not to be meddled with.
I call my mom 2 to 3 times a week and she lives in freakin' NEW ZEALAND! When she still lived in the U.S., I called daily, sometimes twice a day and I went to visit for a couple of days every 6 to 8 weeks.

I read this question to my husband, who then stood silent a moment... I asked what he thought... he answered that this is not a subject a smart man gets himself involved with.

Answer 6

A "grown-up" understands that when you're married you respect the other person enough to decide what's good and what's bad in his/her life. As long as she spends time with him who cares how much she talks to her mother. If he doesn't want to talk to his mom, then guess what? He shouldn't. He's the one who needs to grow-up. Marriage doesn't mean you own the other person.

Answer 7

It sounds like he is way too controlling. I hope it doesn't turn abusive. He should support the good relationship his wife has with her mother. Moms and daughters that are close are always better for families when kids come along.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like he is jealous that his wife has such a great relationship with her mom. Perhaps she should limit talking to her mom to times when he isn't around, maybe then he wouldn't act that way..

Answer 9

That's ridiculous, every woman I know has a great relationship with their mother. It's totally normal to talk to your mother everyday. Tell him to go suck a corncob.

Answer 10

nothing is wrong with that!