If you had a 16 year old who at first wanted to join football and?

Question

then didnt go to training camp and you paid a lot of money for it and also when you found out he didnt go you went up and sat in a lecture for football for over and hour waited outside the locker room, I am a women, and talked to the coach and him and he said he would go and did not follow through would you be angry. Especially considering it was his choice to do football and he ditched and lied. Also I am trying to have empathy, it is very hard, I am trying to consider he might want to do something else, he does like acting, he has been in plays at school, but does he deserve to do another activity, and should I dole out more money for him to go to Second City for acting classes? Right now he is spending the rest of his summer on punishment, scrubing the floors etc,the acting class is this fall.

Answer 1

i played football in high school and college. I loved the sport. It was my passion. maybe acting will be his passion. kids are expensive, sorry you lost your money for football. be angry with him, tell him it is never ok to quit. if you quit one thing easily, you can sure do it again...next time he could quit something of more consequence.

Answer 2

If this is your son's first year of football, sixteen is a bit late to start playing. By this age, if he does not have any obvious talent, then he will be warming the bench, By this age all the kid.s have already had at least four years of experience and those kid,s already know there position and about how much playing time they will get. Being a new kid, football will be over whelming, and not only will it be over whelming the experience could be very dangerous. I say dangerous because as little league and junior high football players, the child learns how to move, how to fall and especially how to knock the crap out of the other opponent. You do not wish your Boy to be the other inexperienced opponent. Your boy probably figured out that football was not for him and unfortunately he would never have know this unless he was able to see it for himself. Dish out the dough and allow him to take those classes. But, he did not do what he was expected to do by skipping the program and lien to you. That should have some consequences.
Regards

Answer 3

Hi football camp sounds awful. Can' t he just go a weekly club or something ?( I am british so the word 'camp' sounds like you send him away from home). With that whole 'jock' culture going on in football, maybe he got scared. We all waste money on our kids, that's normal. My parents wasted a fortune on me! Punishing him may cause him to resent you, so have a long heart to heart with him, find out the reason for his behaviour, and let him know how his lies made you feel. You don't want to alienate him by giving him humiliating punishments. He is nearly a man, so from now on tell him he has to pay for his own extra curricular classes, and let him do some paid work. Work experience is worth more to a young man than jumping around a field with a bunch of block-heads.

Answer 4

I'd be very disappointed to have a son who would lie to me and I'd want to know why. The lying would be a bigger deal to me than skipping out on playing football. Something is wrong and you should sit him down and kindly seek out the truth. He's also old enough to get a part-time job, so if he really wants to take Second City acting classes, then he can pay for part of the cost. Just be sure it doesn't interfere with his education. At 16 he really needs to start focusing on his future. Even actors need a second career to fall back on.

Answer 5

i would make him go .its a lesson in life .you start something you finish it .