my ex who is the father of my child, realized he had made a mistake about leaving me. for the last few weeks i have been talking back to him, and making him feel bad cuz of what he done. he willing to do anything and i mean anything to get me back and try to work things out. i have been telling that i want nothing to do with him, but i still kind of do. what should i do? work things out or move on.
2006-07-16 14:50:29 · 28 answers · asked by Tsunami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he is sincere about trying again and he is willing to be committed to you and your baby, I'd think real hard about trying to work things out. He may have realized through his mistake, that he does love you and the baby very much. Only you know if he is sincere or not. Alot of relationships do wonderful after a breakup. But you both have to be willing to forgive and forget. Can you do that? If not, you'll probably be miserable together. Good luck to you.
2006-07-16 14:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for him than you owe it to yourself and to him (as well as to your child) to try and work things out. He is obviously willing to work things out with you and I would take this opportunity to share with him the expectations that you have for your relationship. If he is still willing to work on things then great. You can move forward. However, if he is not then you know where you stand. Take it from me. I have recently gone through a break up that has devastated me. My ex and I are great friends but he wants only friendship and I want more. I regret how things happened with us and would love the opportunity to work things out. Take the opportunity that you now have before you. You may regret it later if you do not.
2006-07-16 21:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you.
That means that even for a short time he did not want you.
Leave him on good terms for the sake of your son.
Make sure you get you child support papers in order and have him sign them.
Now when he wants to be helpful
Secure you kid’s future.
Find a new man.
Keep this man as a good friend and only a good friend.
2006-07-16 21:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need counseling. Go get professional help. All relationships have trouble, but you really need to think about your child. That's who will hurt the most if things go wrong again. It would be great if you all can get back together and things work out. But stop stooping to his level just to hurt him....quit trying to get back at him and think about what you really want. Getting him back is only going to hurt you both. It won't help anything. Good luck.
2006-07-16 21:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by *~*~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...he wants a chance. The child is his as well and every child deserves a father. It is not like he has abandoned you completely. Give him the chance that he wants. Not only for him or for your child, but for yourself.
You may have some issues for one reason or another which is clearly understandable, but really, you should give him a chance and maybe counseling is needed.
Best of luck to you :)
2006-07-16 21:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just lying to yourself if you said that you dont want anything to do with him but you really still do. try being true to yourself and just tell him how you really feel about him and how you want to give it another try and work it out with him. he'll appreciate you for your truth and you'll come to appreciate yourself also for it. dont let your pride get in the way of your happiness..because you will never be happy that way. swallow your pride and tell him that you still need him. and your child needs a father also. everyone is worth another chance..give him that chance.
2006-07-16 21:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try and work it out. not just for your benefit but also for your child's. it will be better for the child if the biological father is in its life. and plus you sound like you still like him. and if you keep pushing him away then eventually he'll stop trying to get back with you. good luck
2006-07-16 21:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Q the genius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work things out, go out on a date with him again, make it romantic, give him another chance, he might of changed. It might be hard at first but just try it, i mean if he's really willing to do anything for yo, he must be really in love with you. But take it slow dont just get married in a week, take your time to get to know him again, fall in love again.
2006-07-16 21:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kacie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well gurl i would say you work it out,.... cuz if he is willin to do anything just to get you back, then you need to let him back in and get closer. i'm pretty sure you want your child to know his or her daddy right?..... then there you go. plus on top of all that you miss him too so looks like your dicision is already made. just follow your heart and it will tell you what you need to do, just don't let fam, friends and your head take over what your heart says. i hope everything goes really good for you.
2006-07-16 21:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should give it a shot for the sake of ur child. you never know maybe it will all work out. if hes still trying to get you back after everything that youve been telling him then he really wants to give it shot. so just give him a chance.
2006-07-16 21:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by facagirl132003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋