My best friend from high school and I have gone down very different roads in our adult lives. She still lives in the very small Midwest town where we grew up, I moved to an urban area on the West coast. She has a child and is considering having another, I'm debating the whole kid thing, and IF I have one, will be 30 first. I got a degree at a liberal arts college, she went to a tech school and never finished. I'm politically quite liberal and she's kind of conservative, if only because of where she lives. When we talk, we seem to have nothing in common anymore and I even sort of get annoyed when she calls or emails. Do you think this friendship can be saved?
2006-07-16 14:50:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes people outgrow each other and it seems that you two have. It's okay to let go, it better than lingering on. When you find that you have nothing in common, it's a painful process to call that person a friend. I had to let one go that I had for 32 years. It's been three years now and I have NO regrets.
2006-07-16 15:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure! Try focusing on common ground instead of the differences and keep in contact more. Usually people around our age tend to focus less on the friends and more on the family, but it dosen't have to be that way. Some let it become that way, but never to the better.
2006-07-17 22:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by adphllps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. It depends if you both want to put something into it. Maybe if you went for a visit or if she came to you, you would be able to find more common ground. If you are able to truly appreciate all types of people this can work. Same for her too. A friendship lost is nothing gained.
2006-07-17 17:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Grog The Fish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to save it? It doesn't sound like either of you get much out of the relationship anymore. Move on. You both deserve it.
She sounds like a Christmas card friend, nothing more.
2006-07-16 22:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by sublimetranscendental 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can relate to you , because me and my bestfriend were very close and we grew up together then as we got older we kinda went different paths in life and i mean yeah we still talk and can laugh together and have a great time but just cant be close as we used to its like im on the right path but shes not in ways, and still we talk but it can never be like it used to.
2006-07-16 21:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by piggystizzles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can.
Differences never stopped anybody.
Just be sure it's not a "What she is, I am not" thing.
I bet you're more conservative than you like to THINK! ;)
2006-07-16 21:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think it can
2006-07-16 21:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by brittanyfitts11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋