I want more of a commitment and after five years he wants status quo. How do you get over the hurt and disappointment when you could continue the way it is but know deep down I wont ever be truely happy? I feel inadequate that he he doesnt want more of me too.
2006-07-16 14:44:54 · 6 answers · asked by wesbajar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See things as they are, not how you want them to be. Sweetie, It's time to move on.
I know how you're feeling, I've been there and I had to cut him out like a root canal to get on with my life. Now I'm happily married to someone else.
2006-07-16 14:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Magaret Thatcher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After five long years, your heart must be so tired. But you're doing the right thing... it's not you who is inadequate, it's him! So walk away into a brand new life. The life that YOU are dreaming of. Over the next few months fill up all the hours of the day by taking on a volunteer position, a second job that would be fun (at the movie theater or an icecream store), or take a college course. You won't have time to dwell too much about your broken heart, and you may just meet the man you were MEANT to be with. Go ahead... toss up your heart and see where it lands!
2006-07-16 14:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find something else to do to keep your mind off of it. It's not easy, but it sounds like you're doing the right thing. Why should he change his status quo if you keep giving him everything he wants? There's that old saying, "If you love someone let them go. If they come back they are yours. If they don't, they never were."
You deserve happiness and a man who cherishes you.
2006-07-16 14:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not going ot like to hear this
but you get what you deserved
you will not leave
as you feel youhave a vested interest
and all those years vested in a relationship
you do not want to loose
like any busniness venture
you must accept yourt losses, and learn from them
it's part of maturity and growing
so you have define your own terms but lack the courage and conviction to follow through
in effect you are a sayer and not a doer
and you self sabotage yourself by not stciking to your guns
i can guarantee the signs were there ealry on of non commital but you refused to acknowlege them , you merely hoped ( wrong fully ) he would change
it verey arrogant thinking among women who think they can change a man
2006-07-16 14:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be upfront and honest. If he doesn't want to get married, or move forward with your relationship, then you seriously have to consider the fact that it's over. If you've laid everything out on the line to him, and he has told you he doesn't want to get married, then you either have to accept the situation, or be prepaired to move on. It's hard, but you can do it.
2006-07-16 14:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to get through, what i did is to find things to do, keep busy to upgrade myself, advance myself, learn things, also try to go online or look for more newer faces, good looking better, so that u will see the world is actually a lot larger.
2006-07-16 14:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋