My friend has 5 kids...2 from his previous marraige, however, his soon to be ex, is claiming everything for the kids, tax credits, family allowance etc.....They have a share/care order for the kids i.e.....He has them mon to thurs night....Is there anyway he can get a fair share of the benefits?????.....The courts say its not up to them....my mates slowly going bankrupt here...He loves his kids and doesn't want to give them up. but, financially he may have to....Any help much appreciated..
2006-07-16 14:43:56 · 11 answers · asked by are_youserious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That really sucks. I know many many mes who lost everything from a divorce. Tragic. Especially for the kids.
DON"T GIVE UP and keep many options open. There is always a plan b and a plan C.
Guys always get the wrong side if the deal.
Best of luck,
~jenny
2006-07-16 14:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Notnadia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a better lawyer. Yes he can get support. He may have joint custody but who does his papers say the custodial parent is. That's who gets the support. Who ever the kids reside with (Live most of the time, go to school from) can get support. Yes the courts can do something but you need a lawyer. Your lawyer will need to negotiate with her lawyer. Also check out the libraries for info. Ask someone who works there for help. I did my whole divorce by myself. There are set rates for the number of kids and what each of you make money wise.
2006-07-16 21:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by shucibeara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the IRS, two people can claim the same depentent if they provide for this person six months out of the year. Sounds like he should be intitled to some sort of break if he has his kids three or four nights a week. If it isn't up to the courts, then who? He needs a good lawyer. (good luck!)
2006-07-16 21:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by brynmerdin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to see another lawyer and go back through the courts.. if they have shared custody of the children then he should get some of the benefits.. like every other year claiming on taxes..
is he in the US?
that is usually how it works here!
2006-07-16 21:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dovorce decree should state specifically the details visitation, custody information, support payments etc. If it does not then the lawyer he had did him no favors. He should get a lawyer to revoiew the devorce decree and straighten things out. No court would give alll his finances to one spouse causing the other to go bankrupt.
2006-07-16 21:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by usmchawkeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a lawyer.Tell him to contact social services to ask about legal aid.They may be able to direct you in the right way.Then,if that dosen't help,tell him to go through the list of yellow pages and contact lawyers with his sad story(truly sad and heartfelt) to see if anyone will do something probono(free)or can at least give you direction to go.Good luck and tell him NO MATTER WHAT>>>>do NOT give up ANY rights to the children.It is not fair to ANYONE involved!!!
2006-07-16 21:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. Two people cannot get support. That would negate the whole point and it doesn't make sense.
It depends on what state you live in whether or not he can get credit for doing things jointly. I think it is just plain wrong to ask for more parenting time just to get out of paying support. He needs to check his motivation.
2006-07-16 22:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by lisamadd1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can split it up. one year one does it and then the other. she must be a *****. i think the courts are wrong. tell him to see a lawyer. he probably can go to he county and as for some help and explain what what happen. they might be able to help. good luck.
2006-07-16 21:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his soon to be ex is going to be a b*tch about it......then, yes he needs to take her to court for it.....it is the courts decision if a settlement is brought before them.......Good luck to him!!
2006-07-16 21:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to go after shared custody everything gets shared that way
2006-07-16 21:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by ray r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋