Okay, so I am a girl who recented came to terms with myself... and started to come out to a couple friends. One day I met this girl and we exchanged msn contacts and started to talk to each other. We don't meet that often but I guess we do chat very often. During the chats, sometimes she's very cool but sometimes she is not. I have no clue what she's thinking or feeling but I do know that I am interested in her.
So what should I do now? How do I know if she is interested in me or not. Should I do something about it? I don't have experience in this so I am very confused right now...
2006-07-16 14:20:13 · 14 answers · asked by always.confused 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I can't get myself to ask her. I don't want to put our friendship on the line... and just to clarify, she's not straight too.
2006-07-16 14:28:02 · update #1
Round about questions are a way to check the water. But remember relationships happen face to face not online, you can talk sure but things like body lang, eye contact, touching, and chem are only know or done in person. Plus people can say anything in type but saying or acting on it in person is a whole different thing.
You have to start asking her if you guys can meet and go out, just as friends first so you are together in person. How she reacts to you in real time will tell you a lot. And if you still want to take the friendship into a dating relationship then you will have to ask her out.
2006-07-16 16:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would find something you both like, a movie playing, a show, a bar, things that are none threatening. I usually start w/ a place we could get drinks, if she's cool...we can dance and hang out, if it sucks I can still have a good time and find someone else. While you're chatting casually bring up dating, that's totally normal conversation for people who are getting to know each other. I've noticed a lot of females will appreciate straight forwardness. I myself have no problem making the first move, set up the opportunity and go for it.
2006-07-16 14:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by runningwhilescreeming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding out if someone likes you or not isn't much different whether you're gay or straight, unless its the coming out to that person part that you're concerned about. The best way to find out if someone likes you is just to ask that person if they're interested in you as more than a friend. If she's comfortable enough with you, she'll answer honestly, and if she's not comfortable answering honestly to that, you two would have a mighty difficult time carrying out a relationship with any trust in it anyway.
2006-07-16 18:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jordan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she act different like she's not her self? That might be a sign...
Of course you could always just treat her like any other potential date and JUST ASK lol.
Who cares if she gets freaked out or hates you for it or thinks your a weirdo, that means she's not even worth a friendship.
If you were a guy who asked her out it would be the same thing, if she penalizes you for that GET over HER she's a looser!
Anyways,
If she turns you down but still talks to you, just be clear that you got the message the first time and you wont bug her about it ever again unless she comes onto you by asking her self, tell her that you're fine with just stayin' friends.
Ok!
::: Peace :::
2006-07-16 14:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by Am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a female like you are, you should simply ask her a general question regarding how she feels about same sex intimacies in a matter-of-fact way. She will tell you her answer. Then you will understand how to proceed on a more personal level and there will be no more confusion.
2006-07-16 14:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to make a choice. Either you talk to her about whether she likes you, and tell her honestly that you have feelings for her, or you just leave it at a friendship.
The only way to know for sure if she likes you is to get up the courage to ask her.
Remember, fortune favors the bold. Those without courage are doomed to a life of failure and frustration.
2006-07-16 15:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by thenetnomad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, probably you gonna have to be open with her. Go out together and dance and a couple of drink and maybe you can tell her the truth.. That's what I'm planing to do, not that I got a chance, I'm such a chicken.
2006-07-17 09:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by Evita L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask her directly, but throw her way some suggestions or suggestive remarks.... she'll get. But if she doesn't, or pretends she has not... forget about the intimate relationship. She might be already hooked up elsewhere or is simply not your type.
2006-07-16 14:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you meet in tthe first place? If it was anyhing to do with a dating site, just ask her. It's a legitimate question
2006-07-16 16:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 04:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋