Me and my best friend Steve have known each other for 18 years. I am 18 years of age. One night we both got drunk and started talking about the past before i knew it. We were having sex. Now I am pregnant. I dont know how to tell him that I am pregnant and it is his baby. The worst part is he is engaged to his girlfriend. Help
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2006-07-16 14:15:18 · 23 answers · asked by Deborah C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you are planning to have the baby, you better tell him sooner rather than later. He'll have to deal with telling his girlfriend (an 18 year old shouldn't even be thinking of marriage anyhow)
If you aren't going to, he doesn't need to know. Why ruin his life if you don't have to?
2006-07-16 14:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First you need to make sure that you are really pregnant. Go to a clinic and take a pregnancy test..their results would be more accurate than any home testing kit. Now if u know you are pregnant, and that it is his (u need to be sure about that), then you have to sit him down someplace and just tell him what happened. Tell him u got tested and that u believe he is the father because he was the last person u had unprotected sex with..and tell him you're sorry..and then discuss what you guys would like to do. I say that if you dont want the child..give it up for adoption..but i guess if u wanted to u could get an abortion. i think it would be wrong to get an abortion though..i dont agree with that stuff. but at the end you guys have to come to a decision that you're both happy with.
2006-07-16 14:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with him and let him know that the night the two of you had sex you got pregnant. Its better to tell him sooner rather than later. The more you wait the harder it will be and you will only be putting more and more stress on yourself. If you're planning on keeping the baby then stress is the last thing that you need. Just be straight forward with him, you'll have be friends for a long time. You've known him long enough to know how you should approach/talk to him with the different issuses. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-16 15:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are 100% positive it is his baby, I would definitely talk to him as soon as possible. You are best friends. Ask him if he remembers that night that the 2 of you had sex? Then tell him about you being pregnant. Then there will be alot of things that the 2 of you have to decide upon:
1. Whether he will support you and the baby, (if it is his, he is responsible for child support).
2. Where your relationship is going from here.
3. Whether to keep the baby or put it up for adoption.
There are alot more things to consider as well. You may want to talk to someone at a crisis pregnancy helpline. They will be able to better answer all your questions.
2006-07-16 14:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing that could have been prevented was not sleeping with your bestfrined, let alone getting pregnant, while he's in a commited relationship--
But that is the past, you can not change it now, and God still loves you. The best thing is to be honest now and put everything out in the open why it is still fresh, to keep from causing more stress on yourself and others. I mean think about it, thousands of people go on Maury every year with secrets they have kept inside, now causing heartace to loved ones. That is my best advice.
And if he does not step up to the plate, get a paternity test take his *** to court!
2006-07-16 14:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by alphabuenaunis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him. And both of you need to take responsibility for that new life. Getting drunk is not an excuse you know what you are doing. There may be some unknown feeling between the two of you. Be honest how would you feel if you were him and someone was car ring your baby and didn't tell you.
2006-07-16 14:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think you need to find out what you want to do (abortion, aboption, or keep the baby). It sounds like you probably already know but if you dont make your choice before you talk to him. I had a friend who wanted to keep her baby and when she told her boyfriend and a few others they talked her out of it and she had an abortion which she really is messsed up over. So make sure you know what you want to do, and stick with it regardless of his response. I think that you need to call him over and sit down and talk, please dont do it over the phone. Let him know what you plan to do and see what his feelings are. If you are best freinds then you probably know already if hes the type to take care of his child or not. If he tells you that he doesnt want to be apart of it, I think you should respect, hopefully he want say that. I know it will be hard but Im 9 month pregnant and I told the father he has the choice if he wants to be apart of it and he just need to let me know so I could be prepared. I honestly would leave it up to him about how he needs to tell his girlfriend, its something he did and I would let him break it to her the way he sees best. I think that you need to keep it to yourself though until you tell him you dont want to tell a friend and it get back to him without you telling him. Good luck and I hope everything works out
2006-07-16 14:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by ga_lynn84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds really hard. I really feel for you. i know you need advice but im not sure i know what to do. What i do know is that you have to tell him. UNLESS you just get an abortion. sounds like the last thing he needs is a baby if hes engaged. But its really up to you. are you gunna keep the baby? _tell him Or you can just get rid of it and move on. (i know that sounds horrible.) I really wish the best for you. I think you should go get some ice cream and milk and just treat yourself. Try not to worry to much. It will all work out.
2006-07-16 14:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me I know where you're coming from, I had to tell a married man that he was the father. Sitting down and talking about that night would be a good start, then just tell him that you're pregnant and that it's his. The two of you have a lot of decisions to make. Good luck and wish you well!
2006-07-16 14:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by missing_something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what a mess..you didnt do it to yourself so stop that..it is his baby too. As for him being engaged i guess it wouldnt of worked anyways since he did cheat on her. Hurry up and tell him but put up your fists cause he might turn into a jerk about it cause he will be scared. either way dont be scared to tell him, you didnt do it to yourself, keep reminding yourself of that!!Good luck to you and him and you new baby on the way
2006-07-16 14:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by tweedle dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋