marries 12 years; separated almost 2 years; 2 kids
2006-07-16 13:43:12 · 16 answers · asked by rjwarmhands 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is more than that. It is the day to day lives of two people who love each other. The ups and downs going through them together. Talking to each other about our doubts and fears help to make a marriage work.
2006-07-16 13:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by mabeljo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said for better or for worse not til SEX do u part. You've been married 12yrs you must try different things-You owe it to your marriage and the children to try and make it work.Get toys watch movies talk w/your wife about it in a nice caring way,but under no circumstances should you let sex be the reason for the end of your marriage.Please tell my why people put sooo much importance on sex? You are willing to not only destroy you and your wife life but your children life because of sex.Please say it's not so.Work with what you have because the grass is not always greener on the other side.Believe me:The devil you know is better than the devil you dont know.
2006-07-16 14:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by dianelovedaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a commitment, but nothing is worse then someone staying around because they feel obligated. You're already separated, so why not just divorce and move on? Why did you marry her if you're not sexually attracted to her??
I have to agree with DIL's answer too - you seem very conceited. There's a good chance your wife may be trying to look sexually unattractive to you just so she can keep you at a distance.
2006-07-16 13:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she always been unattractive to you< I'm guessing that she has not, because why then would you have married her? If it's because she's simply getting older and her body is changing, that is natural and happens to everyone. If you've been separated for 2 years, then I'm betting that there's also other reasons for your lessened attraction to her. So attraction seems to be a non-issue.
2006-07-16 13:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been "separated almost 2 years", meaning you're not even together. I think you pretty much got your answer right there. Good luck in the future. The way courts are today, you're gonna get hosed with 2 kids.
2006-07-16 13:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sean T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds terrible! If there is no chemistry instead of thinking of splitting up from her why don't you try harder? Try candlelight or a walk. Do you even put on cologne for her at bedtime? Try some romance with her as it seems it's been lost. You know, two children can take away the time you and your wife used to spend together. Try harder and let us know the results! Probably a 3rd child! :)))))))
2006-07-16 13:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, stay until the kids are old enough to understand. Maybe work out a 'different' kind of relationship with your wife to take the pressure off.
2006-07-16 14:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try counseling before giving up. You have children to think about. If the rest of the marriage is OK (not fighting) you should be able to fix things. How about making yourself find one thing to admire about your wife each day? It may help get you into a positive mind-set and you may actually find her more desirable.
2006-07-16 14:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you still love her. You married her "till death do us part." You have made a commitment to her. At least try to mend the relationship.
You can get a sex therapist or a counsellor to help out in that area of life.
Good luck.
2006-07-16 13:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tulip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years separated, and you are still legally married? dude, she is so over you by now.
2006-07-16 14:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jay V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋