I get really embarassed b/c girls/women like to start "girl talk" with me and usually ask me about my personal life like "Do you have a boyfriend?" and some of my friends get really nosy and ask if I am on Birth Control (I'm not). The point is, it can be extremely embarassing, I don't like talking about myself, especially in that manner. What can I do or say to my friends to keep them out of my personal business without hurting their feelings.
2006-07-16 13:22:02 · 5 answers · asked by pizzapie 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Okay, there can two approaches to this question: You can be rude, or you can polite but firm. If you want to be rude, tell them to shut up and to get the heck out of your personal life. If you want to be polite, tell them (politely) that you'd rather not talk about that and gently change the subject. Them asking you if you're on Birth Control is rude of them, and (this is a guess) they may be asking this because they may be on it themselves and don't want to feel alone in it. Before they can manage to ask you though, ask about them. Like, how was their day, how's their job going, etc. If you really don't want the conversation to be directed to you, try and focus on them, and be careful about the long pauses in between. I hope this helps you solve your problem. :D
2006-07-16 13:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Fullmetal_chick Is Found =) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to them that there are certain topics that are just off limits and that you are simply not comfortable talking about your personal life with anyone. Tell them it has absolutely nothing to do with them and that your not wanting to talk about private things with them is in no way a reflection of how you feel about them as a friend that you are like that with anyone and everyone. Tell your friends that you have always been that way and you cannot change your views on keeping private things private because you have been that way your entire life. Ask them to please not be offended because that is just how you are and how you have always been and it has nothing at all to do with them. Tell them you think there is a time and place to discuss personal issues. Tell them you will in return give them the same respect and not ask them about private issues either. If they are true friends they will understand and respect your wishes. Just stress to them that you are not trying to offend them at all that you just cherish the friendship enough to talk to them about it rather than ignore it and let it possibly come in between you guys. Good luck.
2006-07-16 14:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two reasons:
1.) To live vicariously through you, as they have no life of their own.
2.) So they can talk about you to other people.
A good way to stop this is to respond " Why do you want to know?"
Most people will be so thrown off by this response that they will cease their questioning.
2006-07-16 13:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by dawn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE THEY ARE BORED WITH THEIR OWN LIVES......
"I DON'T KISS AND TELL" WILL PROBABLY WORK AS A STANDARD ANSWER EVERYTIME.
or strike up a conversation with them one day about this "friend" you know that has some REALLY nosy friends and asks too many personal questions.........
2006-07-16 13:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 04:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋