Well i think that have too much expectation from my husband...we are having our place renovated...we have temporarily by my in-laws..Since 2 days...when my husband get from work..he said that he is going with friends out..before we used to have an understanding as what...to let each other to know in advance that we are going out..now he just came and said that "I'm going out with my friends"..For me there..that sound so ridiculous and pathetic..he said that i'm overreacting...and i have friends too..so i tell him that from on now don't even tell me or neither will i for sure..what piss me about him is that he always go back in the past..and when i do..he said i don't have..i think sometimes that it's all about him not about us anymore..Though i'm 24..i still think that i should have wait to get married..There is so much to learn in life..i rush out too much..frustrating my life for nothing..i need advice..from married ppl who understand what i mean there..thanks in advance!!!!
2006-07-16 12:59:56 · 3 answers · asked by Cutelara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think too high of expectations is uncommon. I am not sure the age is really a factor, but maybe how long you have been married is. It takes a long time to adjust. Anyway, sounds like you discussed your expectations already and came to a mutually agreeable understanding. Yes he asked you to adjust that understanding (sometimes things come up at the last minute) but it sounds like it was just this once and can you come up with plans of your own or tag along?
Anyway, people have a tendancy to be hypocritical and generally don't realize they are doing it as it can be justified with extenuating circumstances. Hang in there. Try working on communication and forgiveness with closure on both ends so things can be gotten past - ideal but not always possible. Best of luck.
2006-07-16 17:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jill M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We had to live with my in-laws for a while at the beginning of my marriage, and my husband went out every night, too! Maybe they can't stand being home with their parents?
And why can't you go out with him also? I would tag along at least once or twice. Because you are bored being stuck with the in-laws too!
2006-07-16 20:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously i think you must adjust a bit, relationships don't work on deals it works on mutual understanding,love and sacrifice. you are competing saying you dint have to say i dint have to say you do this i will do that and now you are back stepping on your own decision about marriage, stay firm in what you decided and try to understand marriage works only if two people can adjust
2006-07-16 20:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋