She takes things from her brother and I, without asking. I've grounded her, taken things away and tried giving her more responsibilities such as watching her brother for few hours while I'm at work. She gets paid for the babysitting, but I can't get her to do her chores either. I can't handle the backtalk and sassiness to me. She is very rude to others, and disrespectful to strangers and to me (mom). What can I do? I'm at my wits end.
2006-07-16 12:37:25 · 13 answers · asked by sunnyrays61 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She sounds like a teenage to me. They go through stages where you know nothing and they know everything. Do not back down and let her get away with back talking you, that is the worst thing to put up with.
I would sit he down and have a talk with her, She wants to be an adult but she isn't quite there yet, if you talk to her like an adult maybe she will respond better to that, then grounding, and taking away things, like you would a child.
I hope that things get better.
2006-07-16 12:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by cherrypie p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, sit her down and let her know that this kind of behavior will not be tolerated any longer in your house. Tell her what your rules are to be from now on, and that the last resort will be a spanking but that you will definitely go through with what you have just told her. Because as long as she is in your house under your roof she WILL DO WHAT YOU SAY no questions asked bottom line. Let her know that you will not hesitate to open up a can of whip a$$ on her, this is what you should have done along time ago you probably would not have this problem now.
2006-07-16 15:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by mothers finest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all sit her down with her brother and have a family talk. tell them both what you expect. most of all her. treat her they way she treats you. you can take the bed room door off. that way she's has no privacy. take everything away to where she has nothing in her room except her bed. if she is babysitting for you. i would take the money away from her. put up a chart and tell then both what you want done. if it's not none. then they don't go out or have friends over no TV nothing. they do nothing. stick to your guns. don't give in. if they do what they are ask then you can reward them. or take then out at the end of the week to a movie, ice cream. etc. good luck.
2006-07-16 12:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's most likely not drugs. Let her live her life it's common at 13. It also could be the kids she hangs out with or problems at school. It could also be because she feels like she doesn't have any privacy does she have her own room are you prying into her life?
2006-07-16 12:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by jaunlniaH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's 13. that an age when the hormones start kicking in. maybe you need to get her involved in some kind of other activity. sports, church, girl scouts. also you could try talking to the school counselor and watching who you daughter is hanging out with. it could be her friends that are teaching her this attitude.
2006-07-16 12:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to sit her down and talk about it.make som set-in-stone rules.if she brakes the rules take somthing valuable away from her like a toy or stuffed animal or whateverand dont give it back untill she makes up for it.if she doesnt make up for it thean eventually youll have all her things and she wont be able to stand it so she will make up for it.
just remember your the adult.dont let her grow up to fast
2006-07-16 12:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have to look into some of the scared straight programs that are offered around. try to find out who she hangs out with etc. If worse gets to worse get her into counceling. talk to me on yahoo chat at afvet3471 to tell me some more of what is happening and i might be able t help more.
2006-07-16 12:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by afvet3471 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's asserting her independence to see how far she can push you.
Is there a dad in the picture? If not, that may have something to do with it.
2006-07-16 12:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like drugs to me. Go to drug store and buy one of those kits to test her. The lies and rebellion point toward drug usage.
2006-07-16 12:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you have alot on your hands. well don't let her go out for at least a week take her to church. my mom just yell's at me then sends me to my room.
2006-07-16 13:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by stephi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋