i need advice?

Question

i still love my ex bf alot and i want to date him but i have a new bf but i dont really love him i want to stay friends with him but i dont want to hurt his feelings one of my friends says he loves me alot so i know if i break up with him it will break his heart is there any way i can break up with him without hurting his feelings if so please tell me.

Answer 1

His feelings will most likely be hurt, no matter how you break up with him...he is emotionally involved with you. Just be honest and explain to him that you want to end the relationship so as not to waste his time, energy and emotions, life's too short to be in a dead-end relationship. Explain to him your situation and even though he'll be upset, he will eventually be grateful for your honesty.

Best wishes with this situation!

Answer 2

my opinion:

if you dont really love your new bf, do yourself and your new bf a favor and get out earlier. the longer you wait for the only reason of not wanting to hurt his feelings, the more difficult it may get to get out of the "relationship", and, you might end up hurting him more when you (eventually, cant take it anymore, and) have to break up. Or, with time, the new bf might start to not like you as much and eventually dump you.

lastly, maybe get over your ex before you start dating again? unless, both of you want each other back...

for the breakup, just be honest and tell him how you feel. its not going to be easy, but you'll have the peace of mind that you did the right thing.

Answer 3

Be fair to this guy, why drag him along. It will hurt much more if you stay with him. Tell him you need some time to get your feelings together. Be honest. Honesty keeps friends, being dishonest makes them mad. You could try it with your ex, but he is your ex for a reason. Don't forget that reason along the way. Just don't lie to your bf. He will never trust you again and things could change down the line.

Answer 4

It might sound mean but just screw your new bf if you don't love him. That kind of relationship won't work out long, even if you tried to do whatever it takes to work things out. Go back to your ex and try and get him to go out with you again.

"Did I disappoint you or let you down?
Should I be feeling guilty or let the judges frown?
'Cause I saw the end before we'd begun,
Yes I saw you were blinded and I knew I had won.
So I took what's mine by eternal right.
Took your soul out into the night.
It may be over but it won't stop there,
I am here for you if you'd only care.
You touched my heart you touched my soul.
You changed my life and all my goals.
And love is blind and that I knew when,
My heart was blinded by you.
I've kissed your lips and held your head.
Shared your dreams and shared your bed.
I know you well, I know your smell.
I've been addicted to you.

Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I am a dreamer but when I wake,
You can't break my spirit - it's my dreams you take.
And as you move on, remember me,
Remember us and all we used to be
I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile.
I've watched you sleeping for a while.
I'd be the father of your child.
I'd spend a lifetime with you.
I know your fears and you know mine.
We've had our doubts but now we're fine,
And I love you, I swear that's true.
I cannot live without you.

Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me...

Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend."

-James Blunt, "Goodbye My Lover"

Answer 5

Hookie jr is the reason men have a bad name . guys like him shouldnt be allowed to speak in public....... In answer to your ? no there is no easy way out . You need to decide what is right for you. Has ex changed , will he stay that way? Is there even a minute possibility you love your current beau? Take some alone time and figure you out first , then talk to the unlucky one about the situation. Good luck

Answer 6

If he really cares about you, you cannot break up with him without hurting him. But I would be careful about going back to an ex....they are an EX for a reason!!! remember that reason.

Answer 7

nomatter how u brake up with him its gonna hurt a lot.before u consider that consider this.what if your ex doesnt like u and wont date u.now uve not only broken someones heart but are also now alone.think about that.if he loves u u should try to love him.if it dont work out then he'll get over it eventually.time moves on thats the way

Answer 8

Why would you get involved with a guy to the point where he "loves you" only to dump him for your old boyfriend that you "love" but are not with anymore? If you really loved your old boyfriend you would not have been so quick to go out with the guy you are with now.

It sounds like you need to spend some time alone to figure out what you are all about. Neither guy should have to put up with that kind of BS. Grow up.

Answer 9

the best way too do it is not to drag it out and to just be straight forward and honest with him. I mean there is no way not to hurt him it is going to hurt regardless. But the longer that u wait to tell him the more attatched that he will get and the more that it will hurt him in the long run so the best way to do it is just to tell him now and to be completely honest with him about all of it.

Answer 10

There is no easy answer. The best thing to do is to tell the new boyfriend the truth. It will only hurt him more to find out much later than now. The longer you string someone along, the more incentive they have to become bitter with you about it.