A good friend passed away last week and I will be attending His Memorial service ,while everyone is all devastated that he is gone(I will miss him)I have personal beleifs (not neccesarily religious in nature)that doesnt make it a devastating situation.I believe your here on earth to do a certain thing ,once its done you go back to the spirit world and away from this Bad World and to a place you will be happy for eternity.So I dont seem Sad to others .am I showing disrespect to His memory by trying to be Happy for him.Anyone else with these beleifs..
2006-07-16 12:23:30 · 13 answers · asked by andyin137@verizon.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I will definately keep it low key.I would in now way disrespect his families beleifs.But I do know after many conversations with him in the past he had the same views as myself.
2006-07-16 12:36:40 · update #1
I believe that you move on to a better place. All their pain and sorrows are gone, once they leave this earth.
Others prob, think you just don't like to show a lot of emotion,and no its not disrespectful to act this way.
2006-07-16 12:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely do not share your beliefs, however, I don't think that everyone needs to break down over the death of another either. People mean different things to each individual. It's good to remember the good about a person and be glad that he impacted your life in a positive way. If someone questions your mood, just tell them straight-up, "that you believe that he is in a better place and will be at peace for eternity. Why should I be sad? Sure, i'll miss him, but I don't want to be selfish."
2006-07-16 19:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one of few people who really understand that death is a passage to life. Just as we enter this world, we will have to depart it and what we have done inbetween the time, the years that we have been granted should be a testimony to our lives and memories for our friends and family to hold on to. You are right to be positive about the experience however, because the family 'at the time' usually does not see it this way - they are lost in mourning. Be kind, smile and let them know how much you thought of him - that he will be missed but that he has left all of you to continue the love he shared.
2006-07-16 19:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep it low key, and not be jumping around celebrating if his family members are grieving. Be respectful and observe the tone of the memorial service. Offer condolences, simply because the family is bereaved, if those are their beliefs. You can always say something about him being in a "better place," but I would keep conversation to uplifting memories you have about the deceased. After all, it is a memorial service. This isn't a time to express your own religioius views if they are contrary to those of his family.
2006-07-16 19:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not...in other countires i.e Africa or and South America the family or town wil have a party for several days to celebrate the life of that person. Besides, if you were looking down on your own memorial service, would you like to see everyone upset and crying or celebrating the wonderful life you had?
2006-07-16 19:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by gerard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to the service to honor your friends life. How you chose to do that is personal. Everyone of us has there own way and beliefs when it comes to dealing with death. My husband has beliefs similar to what you have written and as far as I am concerned there is no wrong way to feel. Your sadness wouldn't make the dead feel better, so I don't imagine your gladness for their release from this world would make them unhappy.
2006-07-16 19:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't feel that way but I believe you have the right to feel the way you feel. If someone has a problem with the way you "Grieve" then that's up to them to deal with not you. Just let people know that he will be missed and be there for others in helping them cope with the loss.
2006-07-16 19:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by shannonsmith666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian....and I believe in Heaven (and Hell). If I know someone was truely a Christian, and believe they're gone to Heaven, I am still sad that they're gone....but happy that they aren't suffering anymore.....If you're showing no sadness whatsoever....like u won't miss him, then yes, to me that's being disrespectful........but if you're letting everyone know that you will miss him...but you're happy he's happy, then no, its not being disrespectful.
2006-07-16 19:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you are absolutely correct and if he has accepted Jesus as his lord and savior I would be very happy for him too. Life here is just a stepping stone for what God has in store for us. If others question you about your emotions just explain to them how you feel.
2006-07-16 19:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have those same beliefs exactly. But I do feel that if someone as accepted Jesus as their Savior they will enjoy eternal life. When someone has passed that I know has accepted Christ, I have been happy for them!
2006-07-16 19:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋