I met him about a year ago on a phone chatline. Was looking only 4 a friend, no strings. He responded and we talked alot, we clicked and eventually met. Developed a cool friendship & hung out & all the normal things friends do. Never any sex or anything like that. Down the line he decides to come clean & tell me he's married. My first mind said to hang up & end it quickly because he wasn't honest from the start, but i gave him the benefit of the doubt, & figured we could just remain friends as usual. Long story short, about a month ago, expressed more feelings 4 me. I'd been having feelings 4him 2, but didn't show them too much due to his marriage. Well we were a bit intimate but no sex...he claimed later his conscience bothered him but he still wanted our friendship tho. I love him and have for a while & that incident wasn't meant to happen. I still wanted our friendship 2, but haven't heard anything from him since that night. I am so hurt..he was my only friend. WTH..=(
2006-07-16 11:47:53 · 10 answers · asked by Cali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let the loser go!!
i feel really bad for the wife, i am sure you arent the ONLY one...
2006-07-16 11:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all its far too late for the long story short thing. you'll get over it, make some new friends and next time when someone shows you they are a liar know that they are a liar, that is their character and don't blow it off. you are where you are now because you decided to disregard what you had proof of in favor of some fairy tale idea. this is the real world. he has no business being 'friends' with you, he has a wife.
2006-07-16 18:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. He belongs to someone else and obviously, he's chosen her affection over your's. You were just an easy, ignorant, experiment that he toyed with. You meant absolutely nothing to him. In fact, I bet he has dress shirts that he feels more attached to than you. The second you realized that he was married, you should have ended the relationship. No matter who you are, you do not have the right to ruin a marriage.
2006-07-16 18:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would move on. Why would you want to be in a relationship where you are not the main person? Trust me you will get over him. I hope your self estreem is not that low,but that is really how you sound. I would hope you could think more about yourself than to want to be with someone who was not totally honest with you. If he has had no more communication with you,I would leave it alone. Don't go looking for trouble.
2006-07-16 19:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are hurt? how do you think his wife would feel?
you need to end this so called "friendship." he is mistreating his wife and using you. im sorry if that sounds harsh, but its true. is that the kind of friend you want in your life?
i pray you find real friends (honest ones).
signed, a wife of a cheating (and soon to be ex) husband
2006-07-16 18:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by ppunk71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always good to have friends of any gender. But if he is hiding his friendship with you from his wife/family... then there are only problems ahead. Look for someone who is truly available.
2006-07-16 18:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the only thing that can help is a good support system and time. Stay positive and busy. Do not pursue this.
2006-07-16 19:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Samara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him...if he is willing to be secretive behind his wife's back what makes u think he isnt going to do it to u if u do get together...he is a pig and sounds like a womanizer....
2006-07-16 18:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by butterflidesi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were the ego boost he needed. I'm afraid you'll just have to try and get over him.
2006-07-16 19:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Joolz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a loser...you need to move on. Do it for yourself and your self-worth.
2006-07-16 23:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋