A while back I was at the carnival with my girlfriend and she grabbed and held my hand but about 10 seconds later I let go because I felt an erection coming on and I didn't want to make it too noticable so when it went down again i held her hand and up it went again. And she noticed and later that night told me thats why she didn't want to be close to me because she'd be comfortable and all of a sudden I have to push her away and because i got an erection she thinks all i want to do is get her into bed which is not true. WHAT DO I DO TO CONVINCE HER THATS NOT THE TRUTH AND KEEP FROM GETTING TOO HAPPY!!!???
2006-07-16 10:05:51 · 20 answers · asked by stork 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well thanx guys for the advice, well we love each other n we tell that to eachother everyday. and she just doesn't seem to get that im unable to control it. because... get this she says most guys she knows are able to control it. and that just makes me feel like crap
2006-07-16 10:24:38 · update #1
Its not that I want to get her into bed( it would be nice) but when i'm with her i just want her to be happy, comfortable and safe around me. like she should have nothin to worry about. How do i do that?and it doesn't help that im aroused when she is close cause she really likes to be close to me
2006-07-16 10:31:00 · update #2
start thinking about something that totally doesn't arouse you and relax
2006-07-16 10:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off.....I am going to assume you like her.
Secondly, I am pretty sure that you are physically attracted to her. Well hormones being hormones you are going to get an eraction when you are close or in contact sometimes.
Third, if she thinks you only want sex, try turnign the table son her....let her know that yeah you get a physical reaction from being close to her and that is why you push her away, but if she were a male with the hormones that we have....f*** fight or flight...then lets see her control her outward excitement at being with the one she loves. IE an erection.
And lastly, if it really bothers you, as sonn as you start getting an erection start thinking of things that make you lose it... like seeing your best male friend naked, or if that turns you on someone you have no sexual desire in at all naked.
2006-07-16 10:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by ce1n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't know what is making MrHappy be so happy, but I can tell you what my ex boyfriend did... and he was 23. He wore tight underwear, the kind that if he got aroused, it would hold it down so no one would notice. The only way I knew was if my hand brushed him in that area. So he never felt the need to push me away to hide it, we would just continue on with our time together, and I knew that while physically l effected him, he was not acting on those impulses, he was focusing on me as a person.
2006-07-16 10:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by sweets 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-14 17:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hormones! wahoo!
Focus on her as a person, and try not to think about the physical contact too much. eventually you will get used to it and it wont happen until you need it to.
It just takes time to learn how to control your hormones and urges. this is the sucky part of being a young guy.
2006-07-16 10:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your young,also,this is a teen/preteen question.It's normal for a young boy,going through puberty and hormonal changes to get an erection.Talk to her and tell her that it is an instant reaction,due to these things and that you are aroused and turned on by her.But explian to her that you respect her and youself,and intend to wait until your both ready.hopefully when your married,to have sexual relations.Anyways,it's normal,your a boy,and you are just going to have to be careful with urges/feelings that you get during your teens and know that your body is in NO way ready for sex!!Good luck!
2006-07-16 10:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of Ronald McDonald or Carrot Top.lol
2006-07-16 10:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stare at a picture of Ed Asner.
2006-07-16 10:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is happenning to u is completely normal and hopefully she will realize that! My son is 15 and he told me he went theru that alot before! It seems to have a mind of its own! U dont even have to be thinking of sex and TADA its up!!!! Your perfectly normal!!!!
2006-07-16 10:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are physically attracted to her to the point where it really turns you on when you hold hands, however, you really aren't interested in having sex right now.
2006-07-16 10:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Joe K 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋