another state and he loses contact for 28 years both remarry have children stay married to their spouses find each other through the internet rekindle feelings what should they do. continue or stop...
2006-07-16 09:55:20 · 18 answers · asked by starla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the question is should they continue their new found rekindled relationship or stop talking....
2006-07-16 09:58:58 · update #1
because of their spouses.
2006-07-16 09:59:18 · update #2
cant ask the spouses her new husband doesnt have a clue and my wife busted me i know her opinion
2006-07-16 10:04:42 · update #3
the question is are you commited to your wife, are you looking out for and thinking of her best interests and her feelings or are you only concerned about making oyurself feel good for the moment?? I really don't believe that after 298 years you found each other and rekindled your old feelings- I think that you are getting your ego stroked and this is new and exciting for you- it has been 28 years- you really don't know each other any more. All the while you have a wife standing by your side who has trusted you and invested her life in yours. Anything short of severing this relationship off completely with your ex is unfaithful, disrespectful and wrong. You need to go to your current wife- figure out why you fell in love with her in the first place, take her on a vacation and devote some of the time and attention that have been misplaced on your ex and turn it to oyur wife who needs you right now- show her by your actions how much you love her, stop playing with fire, and stop hurting the people around you for your own false sense of happiness
2006-07-16 10:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but i think you are a peace of **** (sorry Starla)
I'm young enough to be your kid and i cant believe what you are putting Starla through. i can't help but look at this as if she was my mother. and you are a selfish coward. your wife has given you 23 years of her life. you don't even know Patrica any more
and you are even toying with the idea of throwing away every thing for some women who could have such little feeling for her husband to say she settled by marring him. and if she left you in the first place because you got layed off and 28 years
later would leave her current husband like the drop of a hat then she is still the same selfish women she has always been. not to mention the lack of feeling she displays as far as Starla is concerned. you both are acting like a couple of stupid teenagers .
i cant believe what an *** you are . i hope this all blows up in your face and you end up feeling all the pain you have caused Starla to feel and more...
2006-07-16 18:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by turbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touchy topic. It all depends, Where is the child they had together? Does he have anything to do with this child? I would say you can continue, but if there is a child that has gone without one parent for 28 years then there might be some problems there because it might be hard to explain, how you can take someone back that wasn't there for the child. Love is love it doesn't matter if it took 28 years to understand that. Follow the heart, life is short. Take Care and Good luck. :)
2006-07-16 17:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like some of the readers stated, this is a touchy subject. My father died and my mother was reunited with one of her first loves. It does happen, but like I said, my father had already passed away, and to disrupt a family like that is not the right thing to do. The feelings are there because the two are enjoying reuniting with each other and it triggers a past euphoria that gives false emotional signals. Be friends, but no more. Neither relationship would be able to handle that.
2006-07-16 17:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If already busted...I would definitely stop the "rekindling" and maybe let the families become friendly...but definitely no hanky panky...you are married and so is she
no good can come from destroying 2 more families y'all failed once don't impact your current loved ones so negatively
2006-07-16 17:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's are ex's for a reason. You parted ways with her YEARS ago and have been with your wife for most of those years. If it didn't work back then, it's not going to work now. You have a wife who has been by your side all this time and this is how you want to re-pay her? Why are you even carrying on with the ex anyhow? This infuriates me.
2006-07-16 17:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop. They are already married and remember sometimes things don't work out for a reason. It would be extremely selfish and unfair to their current families who stuck in there for the years past.
2006-07-16 17:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by free2praise76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to continue, get a divorce. You are only going to make the situation worse if you don't.
2006-07-16 18:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by ANGELa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people you should ask are your spouses. Their opinions matter alot more than ours.
2006-07-16 17:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both need to stop and not even go there. To reopen that emotional door will cause nothing but trouble.
2006-07-16 17:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋