Want to get pregnant , should I?

Question

My husband is fixing to deploy and we have talked about it but, i'm not sure it's a good idea. Yeah i'm ready but...?

Answer 1

My two cents... it depends on how long the deployment is, if there is reason to believe you will have a high risk pregnancy, if you plan to stay at an active duty military installation where you get the military support, or if you are going to be staying in a civillian community where your benefits are harder to get to. If it is going to be a short deployment, and he will be home for the birth, I say GO FOR IT, if it is a long one, then you really need to look at the odds of him getting r & r at the right time, the difficulty of pregnancy, let alone being alone for it, if something goes wrong during it. It is a lot to think about. And that is just the part of focusing on you, not even thinking about what HE will miss. My ex loved being with me when I was pregnant. He bonded with both babies while they were still inside me. He would put his ear to my belly with the first, and she would kick him in the head. He would put his hand on my belly with my son, and he would sit dead still so he could not feel him move. You need to find out if that is stuff that your husband is ready to miss out on. It may be a better idea for you to wait til he gets home. Then you can celebrate his homecoming by getting pregnant without another baby already underfoot. While he is gone is probably a good time to save up as much money as possible, get your personal stuff taken care of (did you want to finish college, take a trip somewhere, before you have the baby) and get your body completely healthy (take those vitamins, make sure you don't smoke, check how much you drink, can you handle stress?) this way you will be giving your baby the best start possible, too.

Answer 2

He is in a HIGH STRESS JOB right now. Anything could happen to him sadly. I personally think if you are both young there is NO REASON not to wait until he is SAFE at home and not going anywhere and his stress level is down some and everything is more stable. Being pregnant and being alone "he will be be over seas" is not a good thing. He WILL NOT feel bonded to the pregnancy you will be super hormonal and emotional AND having to pretty much experience DOCTORS VISITS kicks morning sickness all without him. That is cheating him and you out of the best moments of your lives the start of your family. He you and the baby all deserve him to be able to share the pregnancy. HOWEVER if you both feel you can handle this oceans apart from each other go ahead and try. No matter how when it happens in the end you'll be happy. If you were to go into pre term labor and have a pre mature SICK kid all by your self and he was not able to be there it could tear you both apart. You need him during the pregnancy to be able to be involved and there.

Answer 3

I would say wait...why because I am an army wife myself. It is not easy having your husband deployed while being pregnant, trust me I know this first hand (going thru it now). It is best to wait because my husband has missed out on the majority of this pregnancy and it hurts us both. I am glad he got to listen to the heartbeat before he left and he will be home on R&R in time for the birth but there are a lot of soldiers who miss out on everything because of getting deployed. So if you are planning on a baby, I would say wait till he comes home. This way the both of you can enjoy the pregnancy together and if you have any complications or need help, you know your husband is there for you. Not sure if you ever been thru a deployment but this is my 6th and I will say this much stress is not good on a pregnancy or anyone for that matter. I know ladies who have been thru deployments and pregnancies all stressed out which caused more harm than good on the pregnancy. They had healthy babies Thank God but still it is not easy and I would not suggest it to anyone unless they are prepared for the unexpeceted. Tell your husband thanks for supporting our country and to be safe over there and God bless him.

Answer 4

i say if u feel your ready then go for it but let me tell you something it is not a walk in a park u won't be able to do the things u are able to do now like all that extra money going to the baby where u could be getting to go to the mall with your friends and buying little extra things for yourself and it won't be about u anymore it will all be about the babay.Me personally i don't think your ready because you had 'but' at the end of your phrase and i beleve when a person is ready there is no but or any question about it in your phrase the only thing that should be in the phrase is i'm ready and i'm willing to give EVERYTHING up for my child i mean EVERYTHING. THERE IS NO TURNING BACK

Answer 5

This is my viewpoint. Babies, especially newborns, are an incredible amount of work! I don't know how single mothers do it. I had a tough time of it and my husband was there to help a lot and I didn't work. Pregnancy can be difficult, too. Lots of things can happen. Also, with the hormones "flying," you may miss him and worry about him more while he's away then you would if you weren't pregnant. Me? I'd wait, but only you can know if this is a good time.

Answer 6

That would be a big discussion to make. I would think very hard a bout it. Do you want to be without him while you are preg. Not to mention what if he cannot get home for the delivery? I personally would want my husband to be there to share the experience with me. I am sure what ever discussion you make will be right for you. I hope you husband has a safe journey and make it back safely home to you. God Bless!!!

Answer 7

It maybe best to wait till he's around and can support you. Also if your asking about weather you should have a child on Yahoo answers it may indicate you are not 100% sure or ready.

Answer 8

it might not be a good ides if he's deploying. maybe you should wait a little bit longer, make sure you got all of your priorities straightened out first. afterall children like to take a lot of your time and effort, you got to make sure your ready for it.

Answer 9

I think this is an answer only you and your husband can answer. It's a life changing thing and only you guys know what's best for you and your situation. Good Luck to you!

Answer 10

If you're questioning you should probably think about it a little bit more since he won't be there to take turns walking the floor at night when the baby won't sleep.