its taking ages, and through all the time has passed, NO PROGRESS HAS BEEN MADE!! i dont know what to do, i cant hadndle it anymore!! i now for a fact that one call from me, and we're back together but i dont want to anymore... but im still so weak... i havent moved on at all... and have been keeping busy... when will things start changing in my head.... gettin back is NOT AN OPTION.. thats the only thing i can be sure of ..
2006-07-16 09:34:51 · 11 answers · asked by lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you close this chapter in your life and decide begin another chapter. Get out of the house.. meet others. mingle, go to parties. You cannot meet someone until you get the opportunity and you cant get the opportunity until you get out and mingle. I can tell you this. (from experience and will be more than happy to IM each other if you are interested to talk about it) but.. when one door does close.. for sure another one opens. I know.. I have been there and done what you are describing. It DOES HURT and it will continue to hurt as long as you allow it to. YOU CAN get over it if you give it a shot. You have to BELEIVE in yourself and tell yourself that you can OVERCOME this weakness in your life. IM me. I will be more than happy to help you any way I can.. or a shoulder to cry on if you need it. I will tell you how I overcome it and it does work. If you are not interested in talking with me about it.. at least tell yourself that YOU CAN DO IT. Good luck.
2006-07-16 10:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time because you invested so much time and effort into the relationship. Not only that, but your heart and soul completely. When you have a long history with someone, you have to learn to let go of the hopes and dreams....and THAT...is hard. But hang in there. It takes some longer than others (and it's usually the OTHER one that moves on with no problem first!), but it WILL get better. It may linger in your head as a big regret, but you have to learn to live with it. I wish I knew how to help you more. Take care.
2006-07-16 16:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you give your all and can't let the relationship go .If you are at a point in your life where you can keep busy continue to do so.Do things to make you happy and try to move on.Each day will get easier trust me.Love is wonderful but should near hurt.Focus on you and not him,I'm sure he moved on rather you know it or not.Life is to short let go and open the door to new and fresh ideas.Remember no one will love you more than you.
2006-07-16 16:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been? Do you see each other or talk? Because that can definalty prolong the healing process. Also what are you doing with you time? YOu should do things that keep your mind off things and distract you. Eventually you'll get over it trust me. In a few years from now you'll wonder what you ever saw in that person
2006-07-16 16:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same situation with me. It took over a year to find someone I wanted to move on with and that turned out worse than my divorce. Now I am going through it again. But I know now that in time, I will move on.
2006-07-16 16:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to let go, and concentrate on your goals in life, If you haven't any this is the good time to start. Also there are support groups that can help you look codependants in alcoholic anonimous groups in your area.
2006-07-16 18:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bubba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changes have started, and you have the strength to keep your head moving upward and forward. Maintain the momentum, discard all negative thoughts. Wake every morning and tell yourself why you are lucky, keep "perspective" you are so fortunate. All will be well.
A card would be welcome for those who care.
2006-07-16 17:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tim T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when you loose a loved 1 for whatever reason, its difficult to "get over" because of the attachments and memories
2006-07-16 16:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong and stay busy! I know it's hard but if it is what you really think is right you have to stick to it.
2006-07-16 16:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by lilbitadevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each day will start to get better and better.
2006-07-16 16:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♫♪♥PUSSaY FART♫♪♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋