First of all I love my husband but I am bored sexually. How can I ask him for an open marriage? I need some assistance here.
2006-07-16 09:05:29 · 22 answers · asked by not2smarttoday 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should look into your relationship. There is probably some stressers or something causing tension. That inturn is causing a greater need for sexual intimacy. This leaves you feeling unsatisfied or just wanting something more. Fix your relationship/marriage first, then try to fix your sexlife. Straying outside the marriage will lead to you being alone or in another unsatisfying(in some way or another)relationship. Good luck.
2006-07-16 10:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of one couple that stated they had an open marriage...neighbor's of ours...and they are now divorced. The husband became insanely jealous and now their children have divorced parents. One day they will know and understand why their parents separated, and I don't think that is the legacy they wanted to leave them. If you are bored sexually, you need to spice things up. If you are bored with your husband, then you two need to talk. Sex may only be the symptom. We all have fantasys about having sex with other people. If you approach your husband asking for an open marriage, you're opening the door for him to walk through...and out of your life. Be careful, and good luck.
2006-07-16 16:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you love your husband as you say, then you would NOT want an open marriage. If you're interested in other men get a divorce first. Why not try actually communicating with your husband and tell him what you're feeling?
2006-07-16 16:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by Spyder Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as an open marriage. Either you are married and faithful or you are cheating on your spouse. Marriage is for people who want a commitment, for better or for worse. Sex is just one part of it. If you are not happy, you should end the marriage instead of wanting to cheat.
2006-07-16 16:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by machelle6691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never known of a successful open marriage. The ones I do know of quickly reverted into sex games. By the same token, I have seen many successful marriages with successful affairs on the side. You must decide where your heart is And never, never, never shame your mate by confessing.
2006-07-16 16:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by corsair24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can come across as being unsatisified with your mate and be very devisating to many. open marriges usually dont work. there is always doubt and insecurity. perhaps you two could make it work. how about try getting some better sex dvd's or some colleges have sex classes or maybe even private sexual therapy. try to work it out between you first. i have been where you are now my wife wasnt into it. and after getting beyond it we have incredible sex and i am happy we didnt open up the marrige.
2006-07-16 16:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by mongo862001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save both of you some pain and suffering and just get divorced. Open marriages don't work - just say goodbye.
2006-07-16 16:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only hurt you in the long run! I HAD a open relationship for awhile, but in the end, I ran off with the other woman.... Good luck!
2006-07-16 16:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by wittster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your marriage only about sex. I guess if he was in a tragic accident and paralyzed from the waist down, you'd divorce him. Get counseling if you love him. Try this link:
www.vowsavers.com
2006-07-16 16:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there is no point to that...u might as well not be married if u want to go that route...marriage is a sacred union between two people....try going to a couples councelor with him and talk it over with him there...he may feel the same way...then u can discuss ur likes and spice it up with HIM...
2006-07-16 16:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by butterflidesi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋