Interracial dating?

Question

ok, maybe its the city I live in, the south is not widely known for it's progressiveness...but why are'nt more gay men dating outside their own race?

Answer 1

Gay intercultural (or interracial) dating is alive and well. There are numerous online groups one may join. Yahoo! has a group....see link below.

Best Wishes!

Answer 2

I know many interracial and inter-ethnic couples. Though I'm not dating now, I have had several serious long-term relationships outside my "race." Part of the mystery of falling love is learning about the other person, and someone from another culture makes it all the more interesting. And you're probably right...it's probably more common up here in the north than down south. Which is why I would never move down south, no offense. Bigotry and country music, although we have that up here too. Oh well, I guess nothing is perfect. But I digress...

Answer 3

I see more interracial couples among gays than I do among straights -- the only combination I see very little of is Asian/African American. I am English, my lover is Jewish -- but I suppose you think of both of those as White.

To be honest, I have had one person of African descent and two of Asian descent that I was sexually attracted to over the years, though circumstances prevented anything from happening with any of them -- but I have far more friends than that from each ethnic grouping -- so perhaps some of it is what we find attractive and sexually stimulating, which is not evidence of bigotry I wouldn't think.

I would say that Arabic boys are probably the most beautiful boys in the world - if Jonathan and I hadn't been together almost 15 years, I might well have been very interested in several of them over those years (and yes, a fair number of them are gay).

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Answer 4

Ummm, not sure, perhaps it is due to a comfort level. Isn't being gay in the South enough to deal with already? Mix in interracial dating and you will probably have a scene from Mississippi Burning....

I was in a small town dry county last month for a wedding and left early before they had a chance to string me up. WOW. It really made me thankful for want I had back home North.

Answer 5

To be honest, it's probably just a case of preference for like attracting like, and it's hardly just in gays -- straights are just as guilty. And being in interracial relationships are difficult, believe me. If anything goes wrong, people always assume it's because of cultural or racial differences. Take me, I dated an Asian guy for four months ... he was pleasant to be around and I liked him a lot, but I just wasn't feeling him as my boyfriend. I liked him more as a friend. Whenever anyone heard this, people would be like "Oh, is it because he's Asian?" Even he asked me that. It was the most annoying thing in the world lol. There's still a lot of prejudice in our society, not just among straight people -- but among gays as well.

Answer 6

If you absolutely cannot get outta the south, you must deal. That racism down there is very quiet, sneaky, ugly. It's also VERY OLD and deeply rooted. Nothing you can really do barring moving to a different region.
Story: I was seeing a nigerian guy in Atlanta (I'm white, despite my avatar) and one day when we came out of his apt, someone had $hit in a pan and left it outside the door. Human $hit! I'd rather they just screamed out "n***** lover" and I could at least see their freakin face.

Answer 7

Either gay or straight I feel great about it! I really don't mind interracial dating. I think its beautiful when people can express their feelings and not bow to the status que placed on us by society. People forget the culture of America and so it seems, there isn't what they would describe a "problem" with this situation, They choose not to address it, well the "problem" is people being color blind, to the specifics of the word, BLIND TO THE COLORS AROUND YOU. They are unwilling to accept them and hence they are not there or you are blind to them. I don't believe in color blindness, its ignorance, it needs to change, be aware of the wondrous variety around you and accept it. I Think its extremely interesting to learn about other people's ways of life. I think its really sad that people of any race can simply 'dis' others because they are of any color.

Answer 8

same reason that there isn't more interracial dating between heterosexuals, because they are afraid of how society will judge them. People are so biased and afraid of seeing things they are unfamiliar or uncomfortable with, that gay couples that want to date are afraid to because how people will react...Interracial dating can be hard in itself, let alone with a person of the same sex. I think if you truly love or care about somebody you should go for it, regardless of what anybody says, it's your life...

Answer 9

Is there any reason they should. Maybe they don't want to. Btw I've dated Asian guys and that is the only other race I will consider. That is my choice.

Answer 10

Good question, never thought of that. Perhaps because even in groups that are discriminated against there is a great deal of bigotry.