My BFF is sleeping with her boss who is married. I told this was wrong and i didn't want to be around any more. Should i have stood by her or did I do the right thing?
2006-07-16 08:51:23 · 15 answers · asked by been There 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did the right thing by standing by her. She is your BFF and honey... you guys needs to be there for eachother through thick and thin. Even if what she is doing is wrong.
2006-07-16 08:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by *♥*fabulous fab*♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask maybe you are not truly a friend. Friends stand by each other through thick and thin. Even if you don't condone what she is doing and told her so, you should still be there for her. She will need someone when the affair falls apart who will not say I told you so. Are you that friend?? Try not to persuade her to get out of the relationship rather be there if she needs you to talk and also to pal around with. Then someday, when you need her she will be there too because you loved her and understood at least enough to continue to stand by her.
2006-07-16 09:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by hljones1169 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she does is her business even though it is wrong. I would speak to her about how you feel about the situation. With a friend of mine who did the same thing I told her that while I valued her friendship I couldn't condone what she was doing. The man had a wife, who deserved more respect than the man or she were giving her, and not to be surprised if he cheated on her also. I told her I didn't want to see her while she was involved with him but would be there waiting for her when the relationship ended.
2006-07-16 09:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends stand tight forever. While you do not have to approve of what is going on, or help her in her wrong-doings, you still must, if she is a true friend, stand by her. True friends don't bail out when the going gets tough. Just keep reinforcing to her that you don't approve of her adultery, and that you are not going to be a part of it. Don't engage in conversations about it with her when she wants to tell you about their latest rendevous. Just let her know that you love her and will be there for her, but you will not be a party to the things you don't feel are morally right.
2006-07-16 08:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. What your friend is doing is wrong. Tell her this, or even say 'You know, it really hurts me that your boss and you are sleeping together. Its wrong and it makes me not want to be around you.'
2006-07-16 09:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is something you truly can't tolerate let her know how you feel and that it's just something you don't believe in. If she is a true friend she will understand. On the flip side if she is truly your friend why does it bother you so much? Are you married? Is that why? I'm not condoning her behavior whatsoever but she will soon find out her self that she has chosen the wrong path!
2006-07-16 09:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 04:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by shuey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you were wrong to alienate her. I'm not saying to condone her actions, but love her and be her friend in spite of them. Call her up and the two of you go out for coffee. Mend the fences before it's too late.
2006-07-16 08:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay true to what you believe she has changed and is now not the person you wanna be around. I am going through the same thing and it is the hardest thing ever to not be there for them.
2006-07-16 09:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be a dirtbag and cheat on his wife, thats not your problem. If shes really your BFF you'll stand by her no matter what.
2006-07-16 09:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by kamajamom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋