My best friend, my maid of honor, is being so friggin' nasty to me lately. She has 'accidently' got the times wrong when we were supposed to meet up to go look for dresses for my bridesmaids, she is very inconsiderate like that all the time. She refused to go Bridal Dress shopping with me, and I wound up doing it alone, which really hurt me, made me cry.
I rent an apartment from her mom. She lives at home with her mom as well. Doesn't pay rent, I alone put more into that household then she does and my fiancee pays an equal share as me. Today my son had a friend over and we all went down to use the pool because I have been told that it is open for mine, my sons and my fiancee's use. If it was more then a couple of kids I would have asked, but it was just the 2 kids. I get down there and my best friend and a bunch of her friends are hanging out by the pool drinking beer, and I don't think anything of it, this is what adults do.....
2006-07-16 08:13:52 · 8 answers · asked by FaerieWhings 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
After about 2 hours she comes up to me and says that the kids aren't welcome because the adults were hanging out and besides that when her son isn't around she doesn't want to see any kids. But I'm welcome to hang out. I know she's been drinking but that really upset me. She doesn't own the house or contribute to the household at all. Mooches off her mom and BF and then complains about my son being in a pool that I pay for him to use at, according to the landlady, my discretion. I'm so confused how to handle this. When someone tells me my sons not welcome, thats the same as telling me I'm not welcome.
2006-07-16 08:17:30 · update #1
mgctouch, Actually my finacee is wonderful and she knows it. I have tried a couple of times to talk to her about her inconsideration and she tells me that I need to accept her for who she is, and I accept most of it, but it's almost like she's going out of her way to alienate me. When we went to go get the brides maids dresses, the only time she was actually not late, on the way home she was crying hysterical about her estranged husband and how she cheated on him, etc. So I think my wedding is having a big impact on her, but I am definately not deserving of the way she is treating me.
My wedding is less then 3 months away and I have my sister and friends asking me when shes going to call them for the shower....
2006-07-16 08:26:00 · update #2
After the wedding its time to move on. And if you need a new maid of honor, sweety, I will do it and we will have soooo much fun!!
2006-07-16 08:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you are both true friends you should be able to talk with each other about anything openly and honestly in a supportive way. You should be looking out for each other's best interests.
If you can have this type of talk to her, explain your feelings and perceptions to her in a non-threatening way and allow her to give her point of view. Try to discuss the issues with care and respect. If she is not able (or willing) to do it, she is not worth the title of "friend" let alone "Best Friend".
She might disagree with you marrying your fiance (And she might have good reason to be concerned). You need to learn her motives and see if she is truly acting in the best interest of you - or her.
If she is in the wrong, be prepared to sever a meaningless relationship and find new friends who actually care. If she is right, listen to her and heed her warnings. Sometimes we fall for the wrong partner and regret that we did not listen to our friends.
Good luck!
2006-07-16 15:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the question ?
Cant you see, I'm on my last leg and didn't have time to read all that for it to end in .....with no ending.
Yes, she's being a bit*h....drop her, do what you have to do and forget her.
Talk to her mother about the pool use and don't worry about what she says, she's not your landlord.
2006-07-16 15:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by The Hit Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trash seeks its own level I guess. Get your crap together, then get a better class of friends.
2006-07-16 15:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by something'srotten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her, how can you call someone like that your best friend??
2006-07-17 14:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Irish_bi_female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's jealous that you are getting married and she isn't, get rid of jealous people. things change.
2006-07-16 15:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Nia24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i need to know what your question is??
2006-07-16 15:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY I CAN NOT HELP U.
2006-07-16 15:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sonu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋