well i am 18 about to be 19 and my girlfriend is 18 with one year left of highschool ... we have been talking about marriage after she is done with school, is this wise? i am in the army i deployed to iraq once already i have a great career so i know i can do well for a family
2006-07-16 08:13:39 · 8 answers · asked by Kyle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would encourage you to wait for a while.
How much time are you going to have to really spend time with her.
A new bride requires a lot of attention.
2006-07-16 08:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks like you want to wait until she is out of school, that's great. I would also encourage her to still go to college or at least a community college to further her career. That is one thing I regret I didn't do. As far as being in the Army, if you career is in the army make sure you discuss the advantages and disadvantages of army life.If you feel you are ready for married life go ahead, just wait til she finishes high school. Good Luck! Hooah!
2006-07-16 15:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by ilovedusomuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!
All I can say is don't do it. You are both still very young. It's seems that you both are trying to hold on to somehting that neither of you want to end. Moving on into the real world changes everyone and you become a different person. Your opinions change as well as your point of view. It will happen to both of you.
If you both want to work it out thats GREAT. But I strongly encourage you to persue your career and for her to persue college. Educate yourselves about the world. It is also very important for both of you to understand and know yourselves. This I am sorry to say takes time. Lots of time and experience.
Also, having childrend is HUGE................................ You are no longer living for yourself. You have the responsibility of raising someone to be healthy and happy. This is no easy task my friend and should not be taken lightly. If you are to go in the army think of all that you will miss while you are gone. Not to mention that she will be raising children by herself. I have done this and I am sad when my daughter asks about her father.
You sound like a responsible person who really wants a family. I would encourage you to think deeply about it. Do what is right. Families are hard work and you should be available emotionally, physically, and psychologically.
Love and respect yourself, you will make a decision that is best for you and for her.
2006-07-16 15:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see whats the wait for if you guys love each other I say go for it marriage is a good thing .
2006-07-16 15:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF I WERE U I WOULD WAIT
UNTIL BOTH OF U HAVE A CAREER
2006-07-16 15:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please let her finish school....whats the rush? studies show if she doesnt finish now...she will never do it.....
2006-07-16 15:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.
2006-07-16 21:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm no?
2006-07-16 15:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by andrea_carol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋