in a marriage,do you think it should be 50/50 or do you women leave the important issues up to your husband,like paying bills,attending to the car,and shopping for groceries,stuff like that.not being nosy,just asking.and who takes care of the kids.
2006-07-16 08:12:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, in my household I handle the bills, money, kids, groceries etc. but this is because I am a stay at home MOM. I usually do all the yard work mowing etc. snow removal etc. I feel because my husband works all week and I am home I can do this. When I was working 40 hrs a week it was more of a 50/50 deal because I didn't have time to spend on other things like I do now. My husband has always taken care of the cars and repair. Oil changes and small things I do myself.
2006-07-16 08:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by goodbye 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's important to do what works for your marriage according to your family's needs and schedules. Don't let others or even tradition influence how you should run your family.
Try not to keep a running score of who is doing what and trying to keep it equal 50/50. Sometimes the husband does more, sometimes the wife does more. Depends on the day's demands.
When you don't keep score and just do what needs to be done, everyone benefits.
Play to your strengths and weaknesses. If you're good at finances, then you take care of them. If he is better with tools, let him take care of the car. Both should care for the kids just because it's important for both to have time with them.
Caring for the kids is a loving act, not a burden. Children can sense when the caretaker is resentful of having to take care of them.
We do what is necessary. Period. Some days it is 50/50. Other days it is 20/80. At times, it feels like one person is doing 100 percent while the other does nothing (illness, etc.) And that is okay.
Both partners pull our little red wagon. We get where we need to go. Of course, if one person does all the pulling all the time, our wagon will go in circles getting nowhere. We know that so we both chip in.
Remember your combined, shared goal: A happy family. And do what it takes to achieve that.
:)
2006-07-16 16:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by hope03 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone had their strengths and weeknesses. Anyone can pay the bills, get an oil change and shop for groceries. Who has more time to do this? Who gets off earlier from work? Each partner should contribute their share. If my husband got off of work before me, I would think it would be mutually agreed that he would start supper. He's great at clipping coupons out of the paper and I'm good at shopping. We both do the bills. We both clean. We have 2 boys and we both take care of them.
If I were a stay at home mother it would be different. I would be more than happy to do all of the household things while he's at work so he can come home to a stress free environment.
2006-07-16 22:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ann Chovie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do all the bills. I usually am the one who makes sure that the vehicles are taken care of. Groceries...depends on who has the most time. For the past 3 weeks, my hubby has been doing the shopping, but usually I do it with 2 kids in tow. Now when it comes to buying things over says $50, we decide together. I do most of the laundry, dishes and cleaning, but he does help out there as well. When I'm off work the kids are mine...regardless of whether he is home or not. When I work the weekends, they are his unless he has something he needs to do and then his mom watches them. When we are both at work, they are at our cousin's daycare.
And to answer your question, it *should* be 100/100 where both are giving it their all.
2006-07-16 15:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong answer. Every marriage is different. The couple has to talk about that stuff before getting married and make sure they understand each other's expectations.
2006-07-16 15:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it should be 60/60 each give 10 percent more. marriage is suppoused to be a partenship not one person slave and other person master
2006-07-16 15:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should be as close to 50/50 as possible......this is a partnership now...its now leadership by committee not unilaterally.
2006-07-16 15:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate marriage, it's over rated
2006-07-16 15:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL ITS SORT OF 50/50
IN EVERYTHING
2006-07-16 15:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋