Does anyone regret keeping or aborting a child?

Question

please tell me your story and if you wished you changed your desision. thank you.

Answer 1

When I was young I got into trouble, decided to keep the child, which caused bigger trouble. I was forced to give her up, and through the years of the mental agugish of not knowing how she was, what she looked liked. I decided if it ever would happen again, Which it did, I would abort. I think more of my live one, than i have of a seed.

Answer 2

I'm 20 years old, and six months pregnant right now. Even though my fiancee and I aren't married yet, I was raised Catholic, so abortion didn't even cross my mind.

But even with a loving family, there's been our share of difficulty. My fiancee is struggling to find work, and I'm still in college (though only part-time now.) Not to mention the funny looks I get from some people, just because I'm not married yet.

A lot of people's advice for me beforehand would have been that I'm too young, it will be too hard. But I could only think of my baby and how horrible I'd have felt if something happened to it. I was so glad that no one close to me objected to me keeping the baby. It surely will end up being a struggle, but it's one I kind of look forward to.

Answer 3

I truly regret having an abortion. That was 17 years ago. He had some severe chromosome disorders. My doctor, husband and family all encouraged me to have an abortion. I was in a bad mental state at the time. For years, I hated myself for making such a stupid decision. I still miss my little guy, and my 2 living daughters are aware of the situation with their brother. I am living with the choice I made, and am trying to deal with the guilt.

Answer 4

Absolutely. I regret aborting a child. I was 21 (4 months from 22) when I found out I was pregnant. The father was ... less than desireable. I had chased him around stupidly for a while, trying to "convince" him to settle down. He was a bad boy, and I was rebellious. I hadn't been with him for a month when I found out. Because my period is so sketchy anyway, I wasn't concerned when I missed one. After missing two, I knew something was wrong, but was trying to pretend that the problem didn't exist.

I found out I was pregnant eight days before Christmas. I scheduled the abortion right away, less than a week later. I wasn't sure how to pay for it, and I was so terrified of going to the doctor alone. As sweet and calming as my doctor was, the underlying emotion is still present.

For some reason, the night before "the incident," as I call it, I called the father and told him. I guess I expected him to be more supportive than he was, but loking back on it, I don't know why. He came over and stayed with me, and when the time came the next day, I couldn't make myself go. I hadn't the money, neither did he. I would have to put it on my emergency credit card, whose bill was sent to my parents. So I cancelled.

I went home for Christmas, and in typical mother fashion, mine knew something was wrong. She always knows. Finally, I broke down and told her. She flipped out for about five minutes, and then calmed down and we rationally talked about it. I found out that night that I would be the fourth generation in my family to go through an "incident." She told my dad, not because I wanted him to know, but because she thought he would be heart-broken if he found out later.

I lucked out with my parents, I really did. My mom drove me to the clinic, paid for it, and took care of me afterward. Not a day goes by when I don't think about my child. I was exactly three months when the abortion took place, and I would have given birth about a week ago. I regret it every day. I think I could have taken care of it, just not as well as I would have liked to.

Every day is a struggle sometimes, but I'd like to think that when my fiance and I do have a child, I'll appreciate it that much more.

Answer 5

Children are a big responsibility. i got pregnant at 15 had him at 16. he meant everything to me and still does then me and my husband at the time got pregnant again when i was 19 and the break-up and relationship was so traumatic i gave that child up for adoption i don't regret it i wasn't able to give her the love and home she needed and someone else could .now at 24 I'm pregnant again and i want this baby more than anything. its all on u and what u can handle. i however don't agree in abortion unless of rape or incest. and other really special circumstances.

Answer 6

Wow, Dani_May. There's certainly no need for name-calling. It's because of people with attitudes like that that women don't feel comfortable talking about this issue. I've had an abortion, and I do regret it, but you cast an awful light on the name of Christianity by wishing peope misery for their mistakes. Remember, let he without sin ... If you're trying to reform people, you're going about it all wrong.

Answer 7

first of all i dont believe in abortions. secondly, what i dont understand is your either that type of person or not. if you had made up your mind to get an abortion, your a selfish person!! flat out!!! and you know the consequences even before you do it. its just like "oh well" now i dont have to worry, i killed my baby, now i can have my fun again!! i hate people when they talk about womens rights to have a baby or not, whether they feel its ok to have an abortion or not, your still smart enough to try and prevent that from happening. what about tha kavorkian guy?(however you spell that. he got in trouble killing a man upon his wishes!! well these babies cant even wish it, their moms wish it!!! thats even worse than what he did!!!

Answer 8

If there any mothers out there who regret letting an innocent child live, PLEASE don't ever let that child know. It would hurt them so much!!

Let's remember the children and how they might feel. It's not about the mother because the life does not belong to the mother anymore than the mother's life is someone else's to control.

Answer 9

i think abortion is absolutley horrivle and disgusting!!!! if you can lay down and make a baby then stand up and take care of one...or give it up for adoption...so many women out there that are waiting for babies and nasty people just keep killimg them..yuck!!! i hope anyone who aborts a child is miserable and feels like theyve sinned!!!! mother of 2 gorgeous boys ! wouldnt trade them for the world..im only 22 yes its hard but their the best thing that ever happened to me!

Answer 10

Well i had a miscarraige at 15, i had a baby at 18 and another at 19, no regrets... i love my lil ones