Am I considered Bi?

Question

i absolutely love men. i have a boyfriend that I am sexually attracted to but i love the way some women look. Im not trying 2 be shallow but they have to look sexier then me and be very feminine. I think about it from time to time. when i go out and see a really good looking girl I at stare at her in a sexual way. I want to start a conversation but how would i know if they might get offended?

Answer 1

I believe you are bi-curious, you cannot possibly know if you are truly bisexual until you've had a few experiences/encounters with the same sex. Alot of women either have been or are bi-curious. Completely normal.

You have a valid question asking how to find if a femme is straight or not and if not, then perhaps, interested...pick up the book Same Sex in the City by Lauren Levin & Lauren Blitzer. It explains how to judge or converse with an interest of yours to see if they are interested as well. And of course, there's always the infamous stare. Usually, if your woman brings that same sultry stare back for a few extra moments and does not break eye contact, it's almost always a good sign. Either that, or you have something on your face.

Best wishes for some fun times ahead!

Answer 2

What you are experiencing I used to go through that also, I was never attracted to girls that was less prettier then me, they have to be more sexier then me, and used to give them the sexy look and stair at them a lot. I was also afraid to approached to them cause if they might feel offended or tell me off in front of people.
So I decided to stay with men which were much easier. Beside, I know it is not right. Not that I'm not attracted to them, I'm still am in time, but I try to fight that.

I understand you truly, but no, you are not bi, just curious like me.

Answer 3

You are bi from birth so it's not something you can choose to be but some figure it out sooner then others. You are considered bisexual if you are attracted to both girl and guys in a sexual way but you also have to be able to picture yourself in a longterm meaningful relationship with either sex, because a relationship is about love not just sex.

Could you fall in love with either sex? If so then your bi, welcome, your infomation will come in the mail shortly. (from Will & Grace, just kidding with you.) Your attraction doesn't have to be 50/50, you might like men more then women but you still are very attracted to some. Liking a type or kind of women is normal, just like be attracted to cute men. Many bi people look at who the person is first and so on, but the attraction does need to be there.

If you are just curious about having sex with another girl then that's fine but you would be bi-curious not bisexual. It's only a label anyway, you don't have to have one.

Linked info about coming out as bi to yourself:
http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out_as_Bi&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=32346

Answer 4

Ha-I'm same as you, always checkin out the pretty girls. I love men too but am always staring at the chicks. Best bet is to go to a gay bar so that you are not guessing the first time...I think so anyway. well, I can tell you this- TRUST- if you check them out that much, all would be well in a sexual encounter. In fact, you will be VERY surprised at how different it really is and how you never had any IDEA! you will still love boys tho for the way they are
ps. Do *not* do a threeway w/your boyfriend or anyone else-particularly the first time with a girl.

Answer 5

I don't think an active fantasy life defines your sexual orientation. You could simply be curious, or you could be ready to explore. But you're happy with your boyfriend, both romantically and sexually, so I'd say you're probably not a lesbian.

But why does every feeling you have need to have a label put on it. If you went out for a couple beers with the people from work, and you looked at all the different martinis as the bartender made them, maybe 20 martinis, more than you could possibly drink, would you think you were an alcoholic?

Answer 6

My wife is bi and she says she can remember as a young teenager being attracted to other women. Our best sexual encounters always has another woman involved one way or the other. If you find yourself thinking about another woman during sex with your boyfriend you may be a little more than curious.

Answer 7

What u have to ask yourself is after you start the conversation would you like to carry out the rest like asking her on a date and things of that sort. that is how to tell if you ar bi or not. about the them getting offended part i think if they were not bi they might act offended but inside they would probably take it as a compliment coming from another women.

Answer 8

Yes, this happened to me too. I am a married woman and I consider myself not bi or les, but by time to time this feelings come into me. I feel attracted to some girls, but not all the time, is when my hormones are all around, like today. So I understand you clearly.. It is hard to resist this feeling and I wish I never had these feeling, but I do have the same desires has you do.

I also want to do conversation to them but don't have the courage to do so, so I fight with my feelings.

Answer 9

I have this theory, everyone is a little bit bi-sexual. Some people are attracted to people only sexually, some only emotionally, some artistically. To have a serous relationship, you need all three, to mess around you only need one! So its up to you. Think about it for a while and be prepared for any fall out.

Answer 10

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