I really do appreciate her cooking and I don't want to be an insensitive jerk. It just seems that she needs to learn to clean up after herself. Am I being unreasonable?
2006-07-16 07:15:23 · 18 answers · asked by kbishop79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel you. My mother is the same way i mean she can thrown down but when she is finished the kitchen looks like some body throw up. And she would always want me or my brother to clean up.I know it's a little different because your talking about your wife and iam talking about my mama but it used to piss me off.Until i started to cook and seen how much time and love it takes to cook a good meal.so in short i can understand why you may feel like that but if she good enough to cook it's okay to at least help clean up maybe you could help her clean while she cooks that way the mess won't be so big and you all Will get to send extra time together.
P.S. i think i was real big of you to ask a question like that most men would have just said their not going to do it and wouldn't worry about being insensitive
2006-07-16 07:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife also loves cooking and she makes a mess, but she is an amazing cook and i have no problem cleaning up the whole mess. If she cooks you should clean. I used to get frustrated about it but she tries so hard to make all this awesome food, its really the least you could do.
Sometimes its fun if you go in there and help her. Make the mess yourself too. Its not that hard to do.
2006-07-16 07:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your'e not being totally unreasonable. Why don't you two do the dishes and clean up the kitchen TOGETHER! It could be fun and romantic if you make it. It all depends on how much involved you two are together. If that doesn't work, take turns cooking and cleaning. COMPROMISING! That's what marriage is all about.
2006-07-16 07:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every night I cook, simply cause I'm better at it. I clean up SOME of the mess as I go along. My husband and children sit down to a nice meal on those nights, and they do the cleaning afterwards. I think it's fair, and it's thoughtful on all parties to do these things for each other. On Sunday mornings, my husband makes pancakes, and I get to sit down to a nice meal. I do the cleaning afterwards.
If you do in fact "appreciate her cooking" and enjoy sitting down to a meal in which you didn't have to lift a finger, then yeah......clean up. It will mean alot to her. Trust me, it will get you some points.
2006-07-16 07:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband will do the same thing..If it's his choice to cook something that is gonna destroy the kitchen..he should atleast try and clean it up..usually not...both sinks get cluttered with dirty dishes...the stove will be splattered with grease and what not...when I cook I have to clean up after myself..why not he. I don't expect him to do the dishes or clean up when I cook. somedays I don't feel like cooking a huge meal because i don't want to spend hours in the kitchen cleaning it up but then he'll go in and make a dinner and expect me to clean it up. Urks me a bit. i'd say..clean up your mess when you cook..then maybe your wife will know she needs to do the same.
2006-07-16 07:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her with the cleaning. Show your appreciation for her cooking you meals. Some men have wives that don't cook at all.
2006-07-16 07:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cooks, you should at least help clean up the mess
2006-07-16 08:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by freedomchild99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the kid's story 'Chicken Little.' The chicken planted, watered and harvested the grain. Then he, she? ground the meal and baked the bread. She asked, but nobody wanted to help with any of the work.
Nobody wanted to help, but when she asked who wanted to eat the bread, everybody did. But she ate it herself because they didn't deserve any.
Help your wife clean the kitchen.
2006-07-16 07:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by C R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the way it works in my house is i cook you clean. But you should at least help her. She didn't make that meal all for herself.
2006-07-16 07:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being unreasonable, is always good to help a little but she needs to be a little more organized cause who wants to eat anything that came out of a dirty kitchen. i dont
2006-07-16 07:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋