I am the oldest of four children! ME and my sister that is two years younger than me are both shunned by my mother. The two baby sisters are favored and loved by my mother! This hurts and I have not spoken to my mother in over a year is it time to forgive and forget or would I just be opening a can of worms, HELP!
2006-07-16 07:00:39 · 19 answers · asked by motherpeanutbutterbutinsky 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A year us too long to not speak to your mother. I was like that with my mother. I felt that she hated me too. She use to say mean things to me when I was younger. My mother has 7 girls and two of my sisters are her favorite. She goes out of her way to do things for them and one is out of town. And when she needs something or want something I am the first that she calls. And when I get there she usually have something negative to say about me. But what I came to the conclusion with is that she is my mother and I love her more than life itself. And I accept her for who she is and she will not change. So many people do not have their mother they are either not talking to each other or they have passed away. And my father has passed away and I did not want my mother to leave this earth and I did not do what I needed to do to let her know that I truly love her in spite of how she may treat me at times. In other words do what you need to do to work on that relationship we with your mother. Do not wait until it is too late. Don't expect a miracle just do your part in mending the relationship and pray for the rest to fall into place. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!
2006-07-16 07:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by princess4u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to imagine a mother hating her children under any circumstances, but it's possible the two older children remind her of a bad time in her life. Or perhaps you remind her of herself and it's like looking in a mirror.
Sometimes you have to let go and try later.
I come from a large family where the parents were strict with the older kids and lenient with the younger ones.
The younger kids got more stuff, clothes, cars, than the older kids. There was more money to go around, more time and my parents had learned a lot more. (The older kids were practice)
I learned from my parents and only had two children. less devisiveness, more stuff to go around, including attention.
So don't give up on your mother. Give her time and distance and show her you love her no matter what.
2006-07-16 07:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by C R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times in life you will feel hurt and things are tuff. I am sure that your mother loves you just as much as your much younger baby sisters. It is just that they need the care much more than you do, so it may seem like she loves them more, but of course she doesn't. Try to understand the situation from your mothers point of view. Sometimes it is hard to feel left outside, but if you try to have an open mind about things, maybe it isn't the way you thought. May you have a very nice day today!
John
2006-07-16 07:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother hates me/dislikes me because I am like my Father that she divorced. I am a grown adult now and understand this is her problem not mine. I have accepted the fact I was an innocent child and the divorce was not my fault. The answer is simple, build a world around you with loving people and forgive and move on, life is so short. Lots of people deal with this problem concern
2015-04-19 13:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by rooster1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up on her.
I spent 46 years expecting my mother to change and become the mother I wanted. She never has. I walked away from her last year and I would never let her back into my life.
Some people are not fit to be mothers. I was unlucky I got one who was not fit to be s mother to me.
You deserve better.
2015-03-26 00:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, it is hard to believe that a mother really hates her own children. I have known mothers who utter words of hate to their children, but deep down in their hearts, they don't really mean it. My advice, see if you can get together with your mother and clear the air, and start anew. Best of luck, and my prayers are with you.
2006-07-16 07:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that often mothers and daughters have a love/hate relationship. Maybe you remind her of the undesireralbe parts of herself. Or if your parents are divorced, you might remind her of your father. More importantly, don't make yourself crazy about it, it's a defect in her, not you.
2006-07-16 07:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by whamy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that she hates you. Maybe she is disappointed in the decisions that you have made in the life. I think that you should try to talk to her about how you feel and try to make amends with her. If she doesn't seem to care about this, then it's time to move on. Good luck!
2006-07-16 07:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother always expects their oldest child to be the most responsible and forget that their oldest need love and attention too! (I should know...). Your mother should be the one resolving this - she knows your hurting. She gave birth to you therefore she is RESPONSIBLE.
I doubt she hates you though, but you need to bring this issue to light otherwise it will never be solved!
Good luck :)
2006-07-18 21:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no parent HATES their kids.
What you're describing is disapointment.
If you want your mom's approval, and it's worth it to you to earn it... Pay attention to the things you do to disapoint her. Then take the next step to ask her things you can do to show her you care about you and your family.
I think you'd be surprised at the magic of this situation.
Good luck
2006-07-16 07:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋