if your boyfriend, or husband had no kids but he wanted children and you are not sure if you can have kids again, is it alright for him to go some place else and make a baby with somone and you still be with him after knowing he made a baby some place else? Give me advice what i should do. He really wants a child. I have 2, they are not for him. But he already the warn me of what can happen if i can't get pregnant.
2006-07-16 06:21:53 · 12 answers · asked by cilstubbs2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he truly loves you, he will accept that you are unable to have more children, even is he desperately wants one. I would not allow my husband to go and make a baby w/another lady. Besides, have you guys thought about a surrogate mother? There are so many options such as a surrogate (mentioned above) or invetrofertilisation.
2006-07-16 06:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to find a new husband. Has he actually mentioned having a baby with someone else and then being with you? That is absolutely absurd. He sounds like an idiot, so I think you would be better off finding someone else. If he was not an idiot, he would accept the fact that you cannot have another child and maybe suggest another alterantive such as adoption or surrogacy.
2006-07-16 06:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Good Gushy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah he wants a kid and no matter how much in love u r with a person if she cant have kids then he it wont work out. i think if u really like him and all u should start trying for another. your not sure so try it. do u want a kid with him. plus he willing to be with u with u having 2 kids already so thats good. the only thing u can do is try to get pregnant again. give him what he wants before it is really to late and u may not be able to. i hope it all works out 4 u. good luck
2006-07-16 06:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can always have a close friend have you guys' baby for youand adoption there's a few ways, but it sounds to me like if he will leave over children then what other things might he leave you over when you DO have children then your right back where u started? Do what you wanna do no man should EVER threaten you with a CHILD! you know that, do what you'er heart says is the right thing girl....
2006-07-16 06:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by miss_understood0705 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's so important to him to have children that he would look somewhere else, walk away! Children are important, but the relationship between a man and a woman should be the priority. From what you are saying, it sounds like you are not the priority there.
2006-07-16 06:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, you need counseling and to talk it over. If you are not, Hasta la Vista baby.
He is not respecting you as an equal partner in this relationship. Tell him it's okay to have a baby with another woman, then hand him divorce papers.
2006-07-16 06:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mark W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a decision that the 2 of you have made together, and the baby would come to live with you and the other women would never be part of your life. Otherwise it is totally UNACCEPTABLE!
2006-07-16 06:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by jensmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could always consider adopting yours or even another. Sounds like he has gave you an ultimatum though. Remember, you have two that are not his - and the shoe is sort of on the other foot. Counciling is definitely recommended...
2006-07-16 06:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by dealerofdestruction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy is a creep. You need to find someone that loves you unconditionally. Reverse the story...if you wanted children and he didn't, would you consider having sex with some other sperm donor?...and would you expect your guy to be accepting of this arrangement?
2006-07-16 06:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...damn the ultimatums. He just wants to play.
2006-07-16 06:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋