i have had sex with 2 partners my ex and my current boyfriend however they both *** too soon like 5-10 minutes into intercourse they have both said im really reallt tight what can i do to fix that i think that my tightness is the reason my guys have finished too fast and the reason as to why i cannot acheive orgasm any helpful suggestions are welcome thanks :)
2006-07-16 06:17:19 · 17 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Being too tight is a blessing for both you and your partner. But you need enough foreplay and self-arousing techniques before your partner starts the intercourse. 5-10 minutes is not enough unless you are super excited. In general, there's nothing wrong with you. It is only a matter of not being well-aroused before your partner actually penetrates. Some men can hold for longer periods, but if you are not emotionally ready, even 30 minutes sometimes won't get you any orgasm.
2006-07-16 06:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by arabianbard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 suggestions:
-It's possible that you are tight (you can probably know if it takes quite a long time to be fully penetrated). For this, on e thing that is useful is ofpening your vagina a little. You can use your own fingers for many minutes: stretch your vagina until you see it relaxes, then keep it stretched for many minutes. If possible, do this 2-3 times daily. Another thing you could use is a dildo (one that is a little big bigger), just keep it inside for 20-30 minutes, twice a day. Do this on a daily basis for 1- 2 weeks and you'll see you vagina stretches more. There is however no "quick" way to do this, so it'll take some weeks to be really efective.
- The other suggestion to get an orgasm is the following: I have tried this myself (I'm a guy). Remember that the woman gets pleasure by having her clitoris rubbed. So while I'm in the missionary position, I stretch my legs and hold then stiff and start doing a rocking motion that rubs my pubic bone (the one above my penis) against my partner's clitoris. This stimulates her clitoris amazingly, and I don't get too much stimulation, so I can last much longer.
However always remember that the trick is your clitoris, if you don't stimulate it is difficult to achieve an orgasm. You could also try stimulating yourself on your cli (or letting him do it...) before penetration.
Hope it works.
2006-07-16 13:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of tecniques that help becoming a multi orgasmic woman. It worked with me. First is needet a lot of relaxation and ability to feel whats going on inside of you when your partner is inside. Usually if you're too tight without orgasming is because you're too tense and unable to feel. There are also exercises to relax and contract the vagina to help to orgasm. Sometime it help to stimulate other parts like the nipples or the clit or the rear...I'm sure you'll make it!!
2006-07-16 13:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by salenaart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a thing dear.
My guess is that you are very young and that you've not had time in your life to experiment with your own body. 90% of women experience their first orgasms SOLO, no with a partner.
Read "my secret garden" by Nancy Friday and practice onanism and you'll learn enough about yourself to find the pleasure you seek.
If you are young, your partners are also young, I guess. They would not have the skill or patience to assist you properly.
2006-07-16 13:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by answer annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be a problem for most women, including myself. I had an orgasm by accident when I was on top w/ an ex. Drink more water (always good for you) and try being on top. There are also resources on the internet for our problem.
2006-07-16 13:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by shawonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault at all. You have had very insensitive partners. You need to find a man who takes your needs in to concideration. I am guessing you are pretty young, and your partners are only thinking of themselves. Next guy you have sex with, see if you can "MAKE LOVE" not just "HAVE SEX" it is so much more enjoyable for both if you take your time and enjoy it.
2006-07-16 13:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Linda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever u tried Yoga search 4 one then u`ll know about ur relaxation good luck
2006-07-16 13:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by mamloo7a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be outta ur comfort zone, but try using a toy during foreplay.
2006-07-16 13:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a partner that knows what they are doing and cares about you more than themselves.
2006-07-16 14:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by keepermanca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound perverted but try using a dildo or vibrator to help stimulate yourself again. This will help you loosen up down there.
2006-07-16 13:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by rbb_mllr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋