not flowers or a card....ive already done that for her before.
i am stumped!
be creative and original please....i have done it all but i just cant think of something good enough.
2006-07-16 06:07:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
a gift,for THE MOTHER,whos son has just passed away...how hard was that?
2006-07-16 06:11:28 · update #1
a gift,for THE MOTHER,whos son has just passed away...how hard was that?
2006-07-16 06:11:33 · update #2
TO MANY GREAT ANSWERS!
GOD BLESS YOU ALL
2006-07-17 17:08:41 · update #3
listen to her and hold her ,cry with her to give of your time is more then any gift
2006-07-16 06:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Donate money in the name of the deceased to a philanthropic organization associated with the cause of death. These organizations usually send a very nice note and card of recognition to the recipient. Donations are a way to make something positive (even if small) from a negative (loss). Also, it is helpful in the beginning to send dinner for the rest of the family so the bereaved doesn't have to cook. Offer to help the bereaved deal with the personal possessions of the deceased when they are ready - this is a particularly painful experience and much support is needed. Silent presence is golden!!! You don't have to say anything, just hold their hand or hug them and cry with them if you need to. You don't have to be a poet. As a nurse I can say that it is extremely important to give LASTING support by remembering the bereaved on holidays and on the birthday of the deceased - especially the first year. Also keep in mind that the initial loss period is a busy one and the bereaved spends so much time taking care of business that they don't fully begin the mourning period until after the affairs are taken care - this is also the time when many supporters are no longer available.
You are a good friend and hence I think you will know what to do without advice. Follow your heart.
Bonnie
2006-07-16 13:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by bonbon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my mom passed away..this was a gift that I received that meant the most to me..and I cherish it now...
How well do you know this child/family??
Do you have a picture of the child with their mother? Do you have any stories that you remember the mother telling you about their child? or stories that all 3 of you shared..if so write them down. You can either put the picture in a frame..or you can make a little scrap book, with stories, etc.
You can decorate the photo album/scrap book. It may be something that the child will have a difficult time looking at ..at first..but something that they will hold on to and cherish....
You can write favorite things that the mother liked or enjoyed doing..if you knew her well..or stories that you shared with the mom...or interesting conversations you had...I saw my mom in a whole new lime light..of all the people she touched..and helped....it was wonderful and I still have it to this day...
good luck....
"i am sorry" is the last thing that people want to hear..and cards and flowers are not just the right ticket sometimes...
another idea....if they believe in heaven..this is one thing I did with one of my students..who lost their mom ....I had them draw a picture or love card...hand print and why they love that person and what they will miss....and I put it in a helium balloon..and we wrote their name on it..and under it we wrote to heaven...and the child let it go....we watched it until it was out of sight...The chids family planted a fruit bearing tree in memory of the mom...(since the mom produced the child)...When the child said what they would miss most..i tried to help the family out by giving them heads up..i even went the extra mile in helping the child myself...they wanted someone there that new their mom on the first day of kindergarten ...But they wanted their dad to work....
just some ideas..i hope they helped..be creative..put yourself in the childs shoes..have you lost someone...
also..for the family....gift cards to restaurants..new places....always helps out...when it is tough to be home....if mom always cooked....
dont forget to give the child a hug..and space if need be!
2006-07-16 13:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by sleddinginthesnow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife of my fiance's boss had a miscarriage and the guys got together and chipped in to buy her a "worry box."
A worry box is a small box where the woman can symbolically tuck her worries so she can take them off her mind. It usually comes with a poem. A simple Internet search for "worry box" should show you something like what I am talking about.
2006-07-16 13:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she beleives in God maybe a beautiful Angel "nic nac" or
the picture of the angel guarding the two small children across
the bridge amid a storm...have you ever seen it? it is beautiful
and brings comfort...or maybe frame a picture or pictures of
the child in a mirage type form with a beautiful frame..some
people want to see pictures after a loss...to others it brings more
pain..so it depends on her...or maybe someting that says how
wonderful a mother she was....have an artist take from pictures
and paint a picture of her with her child and....with smiles and
happiness they had enjoyed...?
2006-07-16 13:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by ljean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a personalized album of the child from pictures you may have. Depending on the child's age. How about a Baby's Breath bush they can plant? If you have or can get a pair of the child's baby shoes you can have them bronzed like was done for my sister and they are put on a plaque and engraved with their name, etc. Good luck. Your a good friend to have.
Look on ebay under grief, personalized baby items, memorandum
2006-07-16 13:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some of the everyday stress from her......make her a weeks worth of dinners, run some errands for her (shopping bank, drycleaners) that kind of thing, does she have other children? perhaps take them out to a movie or amusement park..clean house, you understand what im getting at, but most of all giver her the gift of your shoulder to cry on.
2006-07-16 13:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm guessing the child passed away.am i right? I wouldn't take anything to her. i would just let her now that you'er there. for her in her time of need.that is the best gift anyone can give.just by letting her know that you care is the best gift to give.
2006-07-16 13:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a special type of photo album that she can keep some of the pictures of her child? Anything that you know won't break or go to pieces in a year or two, a good quality item. Think about that......best of luck to you.....and her........
2006-07-16 13:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the women needs your friendship and consolation more than a mere token. Let her know that you are there when she needs to cry or talk about the child.
2006-07-16 13:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by schenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is the only gift that will make any difference
2006-07-16 13:11:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋