I had been goin out wit my ex for about a total of 2yrs. After the first year he started to get real jealous about other men talkin 2 me. So oneday i got so mad at him cuz he didn't trust me. Being the scorpio that i am, threw cold water on his face while he was still in bed. and just walked out and didn't talk 2 him for 2 days. He was crushed by this. So he started to treat me different. I sincerily apologized bc i was wrong for doing that 2 someone i luv but then again he didnt trust me. Him being nigerian, he has certain morals that he believes in. But me being nigerian that was raised America, I feel it wasn't that of a big deal. So N E wayz. A year after the incident he decided that we would be better off friends. I WAS DEVISTATED!!!. I apologized 2 him so many times. I really thoght he was the 1. Now 6 months later he wants 2 try 2 work things out!! He apologized about how he overreacted about the water thing and he said he has changed. I mean it's not like he cheated on me!!
2006-07-16 05:46:56 · 17 answers · asked by one_and_only 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you think he's the 1, give it a shot. I've been married almost 20 years, and it takes effort from both sides to make things work. Just remember not to take each other for granted. Talk to each other whenever you can. Take breaks from each other if things get heated. Take time to do special things for each other. Tell each other how you feel about whatever is bothering you. My wife and I agree that two serious reasons for getting out of marriage are cheating (defined as having sex - not talking - with another person) or violence upon the other. Set clearly defined boundaries that you both agree upon before you get back together. I wish you both all the best.
In the future don't throw things (even water) - leave for a while and then talk when you have settled down.
2006-07-16 06:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by jjttkbford 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 18:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't going to be much help right now but I always live by the idea that an ex is an ex for a reason. You may have come to your anger threshold and made the unconscious decision to end it that day. Remaining friends is a good idea but you should try testing what else is out there before you decide weather or not to continue your relationship. Who knows, you may find someone with the same characteristics that you like in that guy but the new one doesn't get jealous or possessive and who wants to live like that.
2006-07-16 05:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by powder_blue_tang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really love him and u think the time spent apart has been worse than the time u were together then i think u should give it another try, however, trust is #1 in a relationship in my opinion and if one of u dont have it then neither of u will be happy for very long. make sure the trust is there before getting in too serious again.
2006-07-16 05:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by pezilove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should get back with your ex as long as both of you have learned a better way to communicate. Start things off slow and tell him how you feel..remember jealousy comes and goes the bigger ? you should ask would i be able to handle if the jealousy comes back..if you can then u are ready to be back with him.
2006-07-16 05:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by CTXCT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you're both kind of crazy. Are you sure this relationship is healthy for either of you? He's jealous and doesn't trust you and you're assaulting him (yes, throwing a glass of water on someone is assault). Think long and hard before your "love" for eachother torments eachother even more.
2006-07-16 05:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, give him a 2nd chance but b4 doing so, tell him how u feel about his jealousy and ask him if he is willing to change his way of thinking. Jealousy is not a good thing! it can hurt the relationship,
2006-07-16 05:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by mexvero1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he said no the first time was it becuz he wanted somebody else.THen no but if it's becuz you threw water on him(good one by the way,men can be SO jelouse)then ya give him another chance.
2006-07-16 05:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell one thing
jelousy is one ugly word that u dont seem to care
or
jelousy kinda takes that part of trust and u got to find a way to get him out of that jelousy
2006-07-16 05:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and and have a talk with him..and see where it goes from there...sometimes arguments o disagreements can make a relationship stronger.. good luck
2006-07-16 05:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋