It's not because I want presents, just want to have one this time. I have 3 children and never had one. I plan this to be my last child. What would be the best way to invite friends and celebrate my last pregnancy? Most of my close friends are in other states far away, so I am limited to my neighbors etc.
2006-07-16 05:21:53 · 18 answers · asked by SJama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's kind of tacky--even if it isn't your intention, it looks like you're begging for gifts. If you want to do it, find something that doesn't make it sound like this is your purpose...
2006-07-16 05:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I had moved to a new town when I was pregnant. Our family was not close enough to throw the shower, and he didn't think that our new friends would feel comfortable throwing one either. So he planned a surprise shower for me. It was great, he did all the planning and got everything ready. He invited people from our work, and several couples from our church that we were becoming friends with and it was a wonderful party and totally unexpected. OK, so I tell you all this to give you an idea. Ask the baby's father if he would help you plan a shower. You can invite men and women if he feels a little strange about it. If he's not crazy about planning a baby shower, just make all the preparations yourself, send out the invitations with his name on the return address and his name for the RSVP, don't tell anyone you did all the work, and have a great shower! This way, you get to celebrate your baby, he gets to look like a hero to all your friends and everyone is happy. Good luck!
2006-07-16 14:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems everyone has different opinions on this. Here is what About.com says:
Who can have a baby shower?
- While it was once traditional that only the first baby had a shower, we are now having showers for every baby, after all, each baby is special!
Baby showers are also very popular for the adopted baby.
When to have the shower?
- Usually in the later stages of pregnancy, say in the last two months. Sometimes babies come early and are able to attend their own baby showers, while others only want to know the gender before their showers.
Who throws the shower?
- Typically it was a family member from either side, sometimes you'll even see multiples showers from each side of the family, work, friends, etc. You can have anyone throw a shower, they do not have to be related to you. Friends, co-workers, family, etc.
2006-07-16 12:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by stoptheinsanity_73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of a sticky situation, honestly.
If you expect your guests to bring gifts, then no, it is not OK for you to hold your own baby shower. Unfortunately, even if you have the most innocent intent, it looks tacky.
Now, if you just want to celebrate your pregnancy, gifts aren't necessary. In this case go ahead and throw yourself the shower you've always wanted. However, stear away from the word "shower" in the invitations, as it is associated with gifts. Make in clear on the invitation, as well, that you would like your guests not to bring gifts. A classy option is the ask your guests to bring a favorite children's book instead. (Your older children will get some use out of them in the meantime.)
Basically, if you make it clear that it is just a celebration, and that gifts aren't needed, throw yourself that party and have a great time!
Congratulations and Good Luck!
2006-07-16 12:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't hold a pre-birth baby shower. It would be ok to announce a "welcome baby" party. You can always send one of those little things that you get, when you register for a baby and put it in the envelope. Your dear friends & loved ones will be most happy to purchase a gift for the new baby anyways.
Baby showers are always hosted by a friend or close relative of the pregnant woman, for their first child. As much as society has changed, it's still considered taboo to do showers otherwise.
2006-07-16 21:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have one go for it and do not let anyone tell you different. We are having a welcome home baby shower after we have our baby, since we were not in the same state/country with family the last 3 kids. So do whatever you feel like doing and have fun.
2006-07-16 12:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally Yes
2006-07-16 12:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course that is okay. on the invitations write something like " come celebrate the impending arrival of ... " you'll probably word it better, but there is nothing wrong with that. you are throwing a party for your unborn child, not yourself, and everyone loves a baby shower!
2006-07-16 12:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by biachachacha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a blessingway. Its not so much a shower a a celebration of your motherhood. I'd like to do one for my next baby rather than a baby shower.
http://www.blessingway.net/
http://www.blessingwaybook.com/
http://www.mamaroots.com/Blessingway.html
2006-07-16 12:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by herdoula 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your really not supposed to have a shower for your third child only your first I wouldn't throw my own either it looks like you just want the gifts
2006-07-16 12:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by YD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you never throw your own shower and you don't get a shower for anyone but the 1st child. That's not what you want to hear but it's true.
2006-07-16 12:24:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋