My babys dad found him another gf when i was 2 weeks pregnant. of course we didnt find out til i was around 7 weeks. He turned his phone off jes for the fact that i couldnt contact him when i went into labor. I jes read bout some other girl askin about puttin his name on the birth certificate. If i dont, he will have to pay for a paternity test and once it proves hes the father, then could i put him on the birth certificate? or does it have to be done before any thing like that goes on?
2006-07-16 05:19:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yeah after 7 months of me bein prego, he decided to start saying it wasnt his. so i think im guna make him take a test and pay for it LOL
2006-07-16 05:29:55 · update #1
oh, he knows hes the only one i have been with.. but his girlfriend convinced him i cheated on him. so its his fault for thinking it wasnt his so he should pay and yes he begged me not to go after him for child support.
2006-07-16 05:31:33 · update #2
im 38 weeks prego, so i still got a few weeks left
2006-07-16 05:33:13 · update #3
usually if you are not married the father needs to sign the parenting papers to be put on the birth certificate..you cant just put him on the certificate..as far as taking a paternity test is concerned take him to court for child support via the CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT BUREAU. They will pay for him to have the paternity test. All you have to do is go down to your local bureau and file for support and they will do the rest. Then I would go to your counties family court system and file for custody of the baby. You will want to do that because lets say he comes back into the picture and decides to take the baby to see his grandma without custody arrangements he doesnt have to give the baby back until one of you has legal custody...
Go to your States Child Support Enforcement Bureaus Website they should have a lot of information that you are looking for on there....they usually explain about the support, birth records, public assistance, health insurance for the baby, etc..
I will make my apologies here if I have given you any false information. I live in NY and this is how it is done here. Ive been told in the past that it is pretty much the same nation wide...GOOD LUCK to you and congrats on the baby
2006-07-16 06:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and put his name on the birth certificate. This way when it comes time for him to pay child support, and I hope you are doing that, he will have to pay for a paternity test to find out for sure or pay up. All men and women should help support their children so don't let him or his girlfriend talk you out of it. It cost a lot of money to raise a child and you will need every dime you can get the first couple of years the most. You deserve this for your child, and your child needs this from his or her father. So many men just want to have the fun of making those babies and then want to run off after wards. If you don't want to be bothered by him anymore though I would go for full custody and tell him to get lost. There are a lot of state programs that would help you get things for the baby that you need. Even if you take him to court for child support doesn't mean you will get it every time and on time. Most men still don't pay. It all gets caught up in red tape for months and you have a baby that needs it now.
2006-07-16 12:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by laurelbush28762 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty much in the same situation and here's how I'm dealing with it, I'm not putting his name on the birth certificate, because it gives him to many rights and I don't want him trying to get custody, I contacted the state to give him a paternity test so I can collect child support, although a positive test doesn't mean he goes on the birth certificate, and I don't recommend it, although I am giving the baby the fathers last name
2006-07-16 12:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Heather H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly, things didnt work out with my sons father and i, either.. when my son was born i filed for child support.. he of course denied paternity.. which resulted in a test.. which came out 99.9% he was the father.. i did not put his name on the birth certificate.. because i was under the impression that he had to be there to sign it when he was born.. you can, how ever do it after the test is done.. but here ( in PA) the father has to sing a form stating that he acnoladges paternity.. i didnt go thriugh all that.. so as of now.. his name is still not on the birth certificate. i have not spoken to him since the day we were in copurt for the test results any how.. that was almost 2 years ago...
2006-07-16 22:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by lindsy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there... NOT married and having a baby. It may depend on the state, but as far as I know you do not have to be married to put a father's name on the birth certificate. Father's can sign an acknowledgment of paternity in the hospital now, but those are two separate issues. IF you file for child support, then they will require him to sign acknowledgement OR have a paternity test. If you don't, it will be up to him if he wants to establish paterntiy for his own peace of mind or whatever. If you receive any public assistance cash benefits, they will require you to file for child support. If not, then it is up to you what you want to do. If you don't want his name on there, then don't put it. I wouldn't wait for him to acknowledge the baby. Sounds like he's immature and incapable of making his own decisions (girlfriend). What I would do is put it out there for him and/or his mom, that you want a nice friendly relationship with them for the baby, nothing more. They can choose to be in his/her life or not, you're not going to push the issue. Then leave it alone if you can, and just care for you and your baby. All the decisions are on you. So what if he wants to be a jerk! If need be get a lawyer, but hopefully things will be smooth for you.
Congrats on the baby!!!!! Make it a happy and loving time.
2006-07-16 13:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by virtuouskelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states, the birth certificate says "name of Husband" & does not request to specify name of father.
However, after paternity is established, the father does have the right to request that his name be on the birth certificate, and will be responsible for the costs of adding his name, and new copies.
I personally wouldn't have his name on the B.C. at all. If he has to wait for a court order to act like a helping parent, then he's not worth having his name on such a precious piece of paper.
But don't forget, he'll be responsible for paying the birthing expenses of the child. That's anything billed under your baby's name while in the hospital. If you were on state aid, he'll have to pay the state back. If you had insurance, he has to pay it back to you. He is also responsible for repayment of the costs of the DNA tests. Not only that, but he'll have to be responsible to acquire health insurance for the child, and you can request that he pay for 1/2 the day care costs.
This is the way it is in my state anyways. If you contact your local child support office, they'll be able to assist you a bit more. They also get a court date, serve him, and court order him to act like a man. At no cost to you.
2006-07-16 21:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot put his name on the birth cert. with out his permission but if you would like it on there you can contact your childsupport offices and they will pay for the paternity test, or make him pay if he is the father, but Do you really want this guy on there he seems like a jerk off why give him any kind of credit for you special gift thats inside you. i would rather have no father than a jack*** for a dad. if you know what i am saying. but It just makes it easier for him to try and take custudy if you do all the work for him, by proving paternity.
2006-07-17 00:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by Amber w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just putting his name on the birth certificate does no automatically make him responsible for child support payments. You can leave the fathers name blank forever ifyou want to. If you want support, then he will probably question the paternity. If you're making him pay support, be prepared for him to want some sort of partial custody as well.
2006-07-16 12:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart!!! I'm sorry you are having such a bad time with your child's birth father. If you know for sure he's the dad, I'd put him on the certificate, and then go after him for all the child support I could get. Some guys are such a$$holes.
2006-07-17 16:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to file papers with the department of vital statistics in your state if you want to add the father at a later date . . . it all depends on the state requirements . . . you will fill out papers when you are in the hospital after the baby is born in regard to the birth certificate . . . you may not be able to list him until paternity is proven if that is the way it goes
2006-07-16 12:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋