Do men really prefer submissive women. I am an outspoken person who dosent seem to be hitting it off with men

Question

I would like to hear mainly from a man's point of view.

Answer 1

No - it would be one of my nightmares for my wife to be submissive to whatever whims I may have. It would be bad for her and very bad for me !

It depends what you are outspoken about. It could be that you come accross as argumentative and hostile and that can be off putting. Ask your female friends if this is how you appear. Maybe its only certain subjects or in certain circumstances that this outspokeness occurs ? Please don't act submissive as that just isn't you and would give a false impression or lead you into being submissive. Be yourself. You will find someone who will love you as you but you may need to alter the way you come accross on first dates.

Good luck with everything and I am sure you will find The One soon :)

Answer 2

I suppose that the first question is whether or not submissive and outspoken are contradictions. As someone that may or may not have had any experience in this field, I can gladly answer no. If someone is submissive, they can define their submissiveness. A typical situation regarding this is someone who is submissive to their Dominant but outspoken to everyone else. Also likely is a Dominant that insists that their submissive be outspoken. After all, that it perhaps the best way to get to know what another thinks. :-)

Every man is different, of course. Some men will think that submissive implies doormat. Either they could be turned on by that or repulsed by that. I used to think that submissiveness and passivity were synonamous myself, but I've learned that in order to be truly submissive, one has to know what they are surrendering to their Dominant.

Of course, some men are submissive themselves and are seeking or have sought out Dominant women. I suppose that they might find a sense of comradery with a fellow submissive, even female, but that is not where their interests lie.

I suppose that my own point of view is that I would like a submissive woman, but not a passive one. She would have to be very open about her likes and dislikes and not be afraid to discuss them. If she is still exploring what she desires, then that must be discussed as well. In other words, I would want a partner in this brave world, but let's call it a junior partner. ;-)

Hope that helps.

Answer 3

It all depends on two things.

1): How outspoken are you?
2): The men you are dating.

If by outspoken you mean criticize then that is the problem.
The last thing men want from a woman is one that will try to straighten them out. A wife will always do that later so when on a date.......NO.

If you just speak your mind about whatever the subject then the number two option comes into play. If the guy is confident it makes no difference what you point of view is he will not be put off by it. But if he is not....well your point of view may be threatening and I think you do not want him anyway.

Answer 4

Outspoken, I'm not exactly sure what that means. Many men would associate this with being bitchy, however others may find it confrontational or domineering. Either way it can be difficult for some men to relate to that. It can be ego deflating for a man to be overwhelmed by a woman, just as it can be the same for a woman to be overwhelmed by men. The true nature of both sexes is survival, and to that end we tend to butt heads on the way that is accomplished. Current society is male dominant at least for the most part. It has made some headway in the fight for equality, however it can never be achieved as long as we allow our egos to rule our hormones. Some men like dominant women, but usually only in sexual situations, not the workplace. Some men cannot and will not allow themselves into situations in which they have no control. Humans have a lot of growing up to do, that is if they don't destroy themselves first. But, the fight for superiority is one each of us must fight personally. Live your life, the way you want to, if men don't like it tough. I personally like women who think and act for themselves as well as keep their feminine side, whatever that means nowdays. Just be yourself, for in truth what else can you be? If you would like to speak more of this contact me, no pick up intended.

Answer 5

I'd rather have an outspoken woman. I couldn't imagine having a submissive woman. I like women that speak their minds, and stand up for their beliefs and opinions. I'd rather have someone that I could debate with ( not fight ) than a person that's going to agree with everything I say. Good god, that would be like having a stepford wife.

Answer 6

maximum women human beings who call themselves outspoken are willfully ignorant and could argue to the top of time even whilst they are incorrect and offered with evidence they are incorrect, border on narcissistic, obtuse and maximum of all stressful. i've got by no potential dated anybody like that yet of the girls human beings i've got generally happening who pronounced they have been outspoken the above is what they actually meant. it is only their way of asserting they are rude and ignorant and don't have plans to alter the two of those issues. I genuinely have a 2nd cousin who says precisely that and he or she suits that profile precisely. i could particularly a woman only be a man or woman and a miles spouse and not sense the could desire to in superb condition into some nonsensical preconceived mould. fake character's turn me off.

Answer 7

Not all men.... Some like a woman that will say whats on her mind and stands up for what she thinks is right... It sound like you just haven't found the right man yet but keep looking there are some of us out here that likes a woman with a mind and not just something hot between her legs....

Answer 8

Some men find outspoken women intimidating and therefore shy away from them. I myself find independent women a turn on. They can take care of themselves, don't need you by their side 24/7 and know what they want. Have patience, you will find someone.

Answer 9

not being a man, i am not a submissive woman however, i can compromise. today's woman has to encompass alot including strength to pick up the slack when he drops the ball.

a man that wants a totally submissive woman, is one who wants or has a need to be in control because he is the man, not because he has sound reasoning capability, or he is following the biblical passage that says women submit to your husbands.

i will not relinquish any amount of control to a man simply because he is the man. he has to be able to show me that he is responsible and can handle the consequences of his decisions and actions, good or bad.

Answer 10

Submissive women are boring. I like an opiniated woman at times.