Met the woman of my dreams a year and a half a ago.... everything was going great, talked about marrage, we bought a big beautiful house together, but we had a problem. when we fight, we didnt fight well. niether would give in and a lot of hurtfull things have been said. Now she has giving up on the relationship and told me that it's because of all the hurtful things that I have said to her. she doesnt want to take accountablity for she has done. now she moved out, and want to dump a 232,000 house on me and leave. and on top of that help her with her finances so she can get back on her feet to where she was before she met me. I thought that the fights we were having were just tiffs....but now shes gone. I'm devastated. we can sell the house for a 18000 loss and all I want to do is make things right and get her back. she has lost all respect for me. I feel that she has turned her back on me and is trying to screw me. I cant seporate my emotions from what I have to do. to protect myself
2006-07-16 04:58:02 · 9 answers · asked by boatsman13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are both on the mortgage. she cant afford to live on her own and give me money for the house ....if I sell the house I never get that money from her. I hmight be able to do it on my own but at a great burden to me.
2006-07-16 05:12:33 · update #1
she wants to sign a "Quit deed" for the house and just be gone.
2006-07-16 05:54:48 · update #2
well stop thinking about it and move on
2006-07-16 05:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by dam me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Immediately find another investor in the house to buy out her half...if she can walk away with even a little money, she will be happy. Otherwise, BOTH your credit will be ruined. The payment cannot be that great. You owe her nothing, and you need make no payments to her. Perhaps a friend will buy into the house, a parent? You need to act fast, get her name off the mortgage...it will involve a new settlement and fees, but won't cost much. Get moving now. And get the hell over her...she is poison to you...you are a very slow learner, aren't you?
2006-07-16 05:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she on the morgage too? If so she is also responsible for the payment. You do not need to worry about her finances, she wants to leave let her. Sell the house and move on. Don't buy a house with some one unless you are married.
2006-07-16 05:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the house,she left so she is on her own in my book. she should have stayed and at least talked about it first. Go away for a week or so even if it is to a friends home. You need some time alone.
2006-07-16 05:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the house and get a loan to pay on the 18k, talk to a lawyer. Don't let her get up over you dude, leave her and don't let her know she screwed you up. Find a nice girl.
2006-07-16 05:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurt now, but you have to protect yourself and don't make decisions based solely on emotions. Maybe you could rent the home out? If you decide to sell, you need to pay half and she needs to pay half.
2006-07-16 05:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by machelle6691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the house.
2006-07-16 05:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by That girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all don't give her one red penny to "help support" her, if she is a big enough girl to leave then she is big enough to have a plan & support herself. 2nd take out an ad in the local newspaper for a roommate/housemate to help out with the house payment.
2006-07-16 05:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by barnyardboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did you say to her next time think before you open your mouth, good luck
2006-07-16 05:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋