It really gets on my nerves when girls try to get with my man even though they know we are together. I don't want to come off as some insecure bull dog, but I don't want to seem like I don't care either. Help.
2006-07-16 04:32:49 · 8 answers · asked by Frogster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Find it within yourself to allow those other women to be the litmus test to your man's fidelity. If he ignores their advances, then you know you've got a good one. If he responds, you might want to look into finding another man.
If he's attractive, expect women to come after him-there's nothing you can do about it. Get used to it and make you peace with it. Your only other alternative is to get you an ugly man that no one wants-then you can have him all to yourself.
2006-07-16 04:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Black I 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I admit girls can be very bold these days.
But what is your boy-friend's attitude? Is he somehow encouraging those girls to make their advances? If that's the case, then you should talk to him and state that you feel annoyed about this. I wouldn't say that he is disrespecting you, because I know men to be very proud of themselves and to like to be noticed by other women. In most cases, it is nothing more nothing less than this: a man's need to be in the spotlight. Well, not every man, but most of them. So this is something you'll have to tolerate, provided that it remains within your limits, or negotiate with him.
Now, if those girls flirt with him out of a blue sky, or in other words, not because he is guilty of showing off or calling their attention, you have few alternatives.
First of all, check to see what is really happening. Get a reality check. Are you sure they are trying to get at him? Or is this your pure imagination? Perhaps you are feeling insecure ...
Second, whether these girls happen to be your friends or strangers, I think the best strategy when you feel (and are sure) they are coming to him, is to hug and kiss him on the spot, so that you show to them whom he belongs to. In most cases, this scene will make those girls feel embarrassed and turn away to another easier target.
Third, if it embarrasses you to kiss and hug him in public, or if you are afraid that he might not give an appropriate response, then look at those girls seriously, not angrily, but intently right to the spot between their eyebrows. It is said that if you look at that point on any person's face you are able to disarm them and make them look away.
Please forgive my mistakes in English.
2006-07-16 05:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by JC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget polite
2006-07-16 04:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by ccccccc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i, for starters just ignore them. i just feel like getting into a cat fight with those...girls! i hate it when they are trying to "get" my man! well, i think I'll just do it one of these days. those girls must be really... i don't even know how to put it! irritating, i guess...
2006-07-16 04:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by olga z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sincerely believe it takes two people. Your boyfriend needs to make it clear he's not interested - that he's with you, nobody else..
If he's doing anything less, he's encouraging them to continue.
If they keep at it, after he's said something, and so have you.. knock 'em out. Period.
2006-07-16 04:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by GrlNamedJane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this ball is in your man's court. he needs to be the one to tell them to step off, just as you would be the one to tell fellas to step off if the shoe was on the other foot.
if he isn't doing this, then he isn't respecting you or the relationship you have.
2006-07-16 04:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by loving 40+ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your man should show them that he is only into you, you can't do nothing about it, some girls can be a bit bitchy
2006-07-16 04:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just do it in a nice friendly way
2006-07-16 04:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋