ladies give me advice plz,,id be happy 2 give 10 pts.?

Question

there is this girl i really really like she is gonna get a divorce and has a kid. i love the kid and there is no problem on my end but i am completely in luv wit her and would do any and everthing for her. she means the world
yet she is still married, she said she wants to make sure things arent gonna work wit tha marriage because of the kids sake,
but she tells me she loves me all the time and i told her not to tell me that unless she really means it and she said she does.
well its been about 2 years and we hardly see each other like that but she called me one nite and we had sex.
at first she wasnt sure but i kno how much sex emotionally means to a woman. so i thought it really meant something. any way after 1 day or so things went back to normal
she hardly calls or ne thing which is preety normal but dang i thought maybe something would of changed,, whats up with that!
the only time we talk is if i call her. do i even have a chance?

Answer 1

u still have a chance. dont stop calling her. talk about her kid ask her how her kis is and everything. us women love it when guys talk and ask about our kids. besides we let the guys do all the calling and everything. so keep calling her and things will change. good luck.

Answer 2

Oh sweetie she is just using you. When she is having problems you are there to make her feel better about herself. You give her something her husband can't. What that is I don't know. Any woman who is going to leave her marriage will do so and not keep you hanging on for 2 years. You really should rethink this whole thing. If she is cheating with you and yall hook up then she will be cheating on you. That makes me mad that she or any woman would use a man the way she is using you. As for the kids what woman in their right mind would stay in a loveless marriage just for the kids all that would do is teach those kids how to have a bad marriage. I think you are a super nice guy and you deserve to have a woman who will treat you like a king give you all her love and be faithful to you and only you, not what you are getting now. So cut your loses and move on it will be hard but in time it will better then living like you are living now. Your life will be so much better and this is one of many life's lessons that will help you find the one who truly belongs to you.

Answer 3

oh thats really sad, sounds like u really like this girl, 2 bad she doesn't seem to care or feel the same, i dont know for sure because only u 2 know the extent of your relationship, but if she does love u she would have seen u more, i mean i totally understand the kids thing and shes just trying to look out for the kid and try to do what she thinks is best. its just wrong that she slept with u while married do u honestly feel that was right i mean i understand the fact that she's not happy at home but i mean she should get a divorce before she starts doing that with other people, other than her husband, you know that i mean. think about it if u 2 were together and were fighting after all this is over wouldn't u be worried that she would go be with someone else just like she was with u when she was still married. if she was really just trying to see if things would work out even for the kids sake she would not have slept with u and then gave u the cold sholder. i really do wish u good luck but u should honestly try to get over her, as hard as that sounds to u right now its probably the best thing, because ur just clinging on these little hopes that she gives u like the i love u's and the sex thing but honestly she does not sound like a women in love with u, find someone else that deserves u and let her realize what she's lost if she really does care, good luck

Answer 4

WOW! I'd say that this woman is "playing" you. She has no intent of leaving her marriage. I would think after two years, this would prove it to you.
Honey, you need to move on and IF she ever contacts you again, tell her you no longer have interest.
PLEASE, don't fall into the "trap" she is setting for you again.
Your situation sounds like the classic "conveneince affair" (on her part) where you genuinely have feelings for her.
Do you really want a woman who cheats on her husband anyway? This should give you a clue about her character, morals and what she would do to you, if you were together.
GOOD LUCK! You deserve better, WAY better and you WILL find someone who will respect you and love you for who you are! I promise - "Been there, done that" and am STILL looking for my "Mr. Right". I have certain qualities I look for in a man and I won't settle for less!

Answer 5

I'm answering this not for points but for you ...it seems like you are in love not just love her but you are in love which most of the time does not last forever but...because she is almost ignoring you and she is getting a divorse dosent that sound like she would like to have a break from guys ....? its a good thing that you like the kid cause later on down the line she might want to go to u for guy help (if she is that kind of girl ) but for now keep her at an arms length like the way she she is keeping u but dont put her totally on the back burner ...well thats all I have to say ...good luck ...tc

Answer 6

I dont know if you want to hear this but you will never be the love of her life. She may give up the goodies to you every now and again but you will be no more than an occasional booty call. She only sleeps with you to let out her frustrations. Blood is thicker than water. She has a son with the other guy, they are maried. Need I say more?

Answer 7

sounds like your lady friend might have a little bit of a low self-esteem. I would suggest not spending any more time on her. I think the only time she will come to you is if her husband leaves her. It sounds like she's scared to be alone or to change her life. If she continues in her marriage, life is normal...and you're there to give her love when she's feeling lonely. I'd make her make a decision...either choose you or not. She shouldn't dangle you on a string though...

Answer 8

She like to have control over you and she is there when and only when she needs something from you. That could be very devistating to you in the long run so try to move on or lay down an ultimatum.

Answer 9

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you are a male mistress. Two years, empty promises to get together, random calls for sex, you making all the contact, no divorce forthcoming, etc.

Answer 10

It is so hard to leave someone you love. This woman is using you. Move on. You will find someone who wants to be with you. Take care,hang in there. The right one is out there waiting for you , trust me. Best Wishes.